Unsure of father

[Swishswish95]

Hello everyone sorry for another post but I'm just looking for honest opinions here.
I'm pregnant and unsure who the father is, is it wrong to bring a child into the world in this way? I personally don't want to terminate the pregnancy but I don't know if realistically I'm making the wrong decision.. Thank you for taking the time to read this I hope you all have a wonderful evening xxxxx

It’s down to each personal preference st the end of the day people react to such situations in a different way which is right for them. Do you have an idea who the father might be?

@Dancingmonkey87 yes it is between two people xxxz

Yes of course it's ok! As long as the child will have a login family, it doesn't matter who it's made up of!

If it's important to you, we can probably help based on dates or you can get a dna test once the baby is born.

For dates, you'd need to know when the first day of your last period was, how long your cycles are usually, when you got a positive test and on what dates you had sex with each possible father.

Loving not login!

It isn’t wrong to being a child into the world if you don’t know who’s it is. You can always find out later anyway. What’s important is what you want. Do you want the child? If so then keep it, you’ll do absolutely fine. If not then use your options. Either way just be more careful in the future.

Plenty of single mothers bring up kids and they turn out absolutely great. They just need a loving home... one parent or two

Do the potential fathers know? There’s always the option of DNA testing. If you don’t want to terminate, then don’t as you may well always regret it. Like the pp said I’m sure baby will be part of a loving, happy family.

@spugzbunny

So I had a period 1st Jan, then I had unprotected sex 21st Jan with man (a) then I came on my period 23rd Jan.
I then had unprotected sex with man (b) Feb 6th then I had sex with man (a) again. I went to the doctors on Tuesday and they did a pregnancy test and it had a faint line and then I did a clear blue pregnancy test this morning it says 2-3weeks? I have no idea. I have a drs appointment Tuesday zxxxxx

@FranticallyPeaceful thank you so much for your kind words. I feel like I have been blessed to have a child inside me I definitely want it xxxx

@Bostonbullsmumma I have two potential father's. Thank you so much for your reply xxx

How very ‘Bridget Jones’s Diary’! Lol. Watch this movie. I’m sure it will make you feel better.

If you had sex with both in the same cycle then it could be either of them. Just don’t worry about it yet. You can tell them both there’s a chance with either... but just relax and enjoy your pregnancy.

@FranticallyPeaceful Haha I will be sure to watch it hahaha thank you so much xxx

Sorry ‘Bridget Jones’ Baby’ - it’s the third in the series!

I'd just tell them both they could be the father and do a DNA once the baby arrives.

If you have a 3 week cycle and the second time you had sex with man a) it was protected, then that would make it man b).

Did you sleep with man b and a on the same time, both unprotected? No judgement here, just trying to work out likelihood

Sorry, on the same day that should be!

@Pittcuecothecookbook I slept with man a again on the 8th sorry xxxx

It's most likely to be 6th Feb. There's only 5 days you can get pregnant a month as the egg only lives for 24 hours. The sperm can survive for 3 days so that's 3 days prior to the egg being released, the day the egg is released and the day after that. As 6th Feb is two weeks after the first day of your last period, my money is on then. However, if you ovulated late, it may be the guy on the 8th.

Have your baby, if YOU decide you want. Don't worry about bringing a baby into the world not knowing who the dad is. Clearly not ideal but you can't turn the clock back. You arent the first and certainly won't be the last. That's if you want to keep it obv xx

@Pittcuecothecookbook thank you so much for your advice I feel like I'm having a mid life crisis I never thought I would be in a situation like this xxxxxx

Sorry I've only just remembered to check this.

Disregard the January sex - it's not that.

As the you slept with the 2 men only 2 days apart in Feb it's impossible to tell unfortunately.

I think you need to decide if you want to have a relationship going forward with either man and let them know the situation honestly. You can know for sure when baby is born then do a dna test.

As long as you love this baby that is all that matters! It will be loved and cared for regardless of who the dad is

@spugzbunny I think I'm just going to make both of them aware!!!! Yeh I know I'm going to love my baby so much I'm so excited for the future zxxxxx

It’s almost impossible to work that out as you slept with two men just 2 days apart and since your January cycle was only 23 days it’s hard to work out when you would be ovulating. If I had to guess I’d say the 6th feb guy. If you want to keep your baby you need to tell both men what has happened and do a dna test after birth

She doesn't need to do anything nikki. I agree, it would be a sensible solution but it's her choice what to do.