How to make DO understand

[Lulu2515]

The title is more reasonable than I feel...

Only a few weeks until I'm induced.
I'm constantly tidying up after DP and dc1. I'm exhausted.
DP just referenced the "year holiday" I'm about to have off and doesn't understand why I'm moaning that he wants to slob all day watching the sofa (he had a lie- in til 11am this morning whilst I tidyed up from last night and played with dc1).
I'm torn between crying and kicking him in the cock (obviously not really).
I'm terrible at putting what I want to say into words... I want him to understand what I feel like- when I said "you just think I'm going to be off having a lovely time?" He responses with "so it won't be lovely with our new baby?".
Such a frustrating man.
Any tips? (Not ltb thanks... He's generally good, he's just being a dick about this)

Try telling him that in fact your starting an unpaid 24 hour per day job. Then kick him in the cock

I left my DH with both DC when dd was about 4 weeks old just to go to the cinema / supper afterwards.
As I was getting ready he appeared with the baby he asked how to settle her - I pointed out that the user manual hadn't arrived through the post yet and he should just wing it like I'd been doing then I left. Job done, he never came out with crap like that again.

Sorry you're feeling stressed out. I don't have much advice I'm afraid, I don't know how I'd cope if my DH was making comments about maternity leave being a "holiday", thankfully he's very understanding.

My only advice would be to tell him you need to pop out for a bit next weekend so he needs to watch DC1, say you won't be long and leave him to it for the day. My friend resorted to this with her DP when he wasn't being very understanding, she text him to say will be a bit longer than expected whilst she was sat in a lovely coffee shop with her feet up and a nice slice of cake! hopefully he'll realise how hard it is by himself for the day and you get a nice well earned break.

Enjoyable time with a newborn? Fuck that! Ha. I love my kids to pieces and there are very quick flashes of loveliness in the newborn phase that you will remember forever, but they are incredibly short lived and stress is always a front runner emotion.
Does he honestly think new mothers just have a wonderful time at home with newborns? Cooing over their little creations and generally relaxing doing knitting or something? God no. String me up on a washing line and I will sleep. Most women would gladly give their baby to a stranger for a bit of quiet time (obviously not really, but it’s never far from thought I tell you that much!).

Lovely my arse. Tell him to stop being a selfish bastard. You’re about to endure a very difficult year whilst he can bugger off and get about his normal life