Please don't judge....

[birdgal4848]

I am in a bit of a mess/stressful situation. Yesterday, my partner of 6 months ended our relationship with me because I can't give him more of my time, he has often made me feel like I'm not enough and that has really upset me, so although while I am sad, perhaps it is for the best, our relationship, I felt, was very full on for something that has ended after being 'short term.'
Since last week Saturday I had been noticing some cramping which I thought was very early for my period and I though 'oh no im going to come on early' I didn't and then I was due yesterday - I'm usually like clockwork, didn't come on and this afternoon I have taken a pregnancy test and its positive. I am terrified and being a Mum has been my dream since I was a little girl but this isn't how I envisaged it and I don't know what to do. Or what your supposed to do when your pregnant. Do I need to tell my doctor?

Yep the first to do is to have it confirmed by a gp.
The 2nd thing is to decide what your future plans are - yea or nay - and whether you want him involved or not. Obviously that requires telling him which won't be easy. Don't feel you have to resume the relationship, you can still co parent separately if you decide to continue with the pregnancy.

Sorry it has happened that way for you, but if you want this baby then tell the father and go from there. Plan for him not wanting it just in case and see who else you have for support, family/friends? I know it's not ideal but if you want this baby you can definitely do it by yourself. Plus the dad might want to be involved.
Practical stuff - you don't need to see your GP, google your local midwifery team/antenatal clinic and ring to ask for a booking appointment. You will usually have this at about 8 weeks pregnant so they will work it out from the first day of your last period.
If you decide you don't want to continue with the pregnancy you obviously don't need this appointment and you'd discuss a termination with your GP or clinic.
Don't be scared, you are more than capable of doing this by yourself if that's what you want, and just take plenty of time for it to sink in. Hopefully you've got a good support network to help but even if not there's lots of help out there. Congratulations

If you want to continue with the pregnancy your next step depends on the area you're in - probably best to phone the surgery and ask, or google.

Where I am you just call the community midwifery team and they book you in for your first app when you're about 8 weeks. No need to see the doctor. I know it's different in different places though.

Firstly, take a day or two. You’ve had a shock.

Make an appointment with your GP, they will be able to give you direction.

You have time, take a breath.

There are some tricky days ahead and decisions to make, but you have choices. You will be ok.

Thank you for being so kind, I've told my mum and she is really shocked but pleased and supportive straight away, I know I'm going to keep the baby. I think I'll wait a couple of days to tell him so I can get my head around things and how I want to approach it. He already has a child from a previous relationship so I'm not sure how he will take the news.
I'll call the GP on Monday and see what they say to do - thank you x

I’m sorry you’re in such a stressful situation.

Depending on how pregnant you are, or where you live, your GP might not be interested. Where we are you have to wait till your first scan at around 11-12 weeks before you’re put in the system. They use the scan to confirm the pregnancy.

I also have a smear test that was booked in for a week on Monday, would I still be allowed to have this? It would be my first one, I've never had one before.

OP you don't need a pregnancy 'confirming' by a GP. A positive test is a positive. You can however ask about booking with a midwife.
I am sorry the situation is what it is. I wish you the best for your pregnancy x

Bless you op, it's not your fault things haven't gone as you'd hoped. It's great your mum is so on board and supportive, that's a huge thing in itself.

I would tell your local doctors surgery so that you can register with your midwife. They'll likely advise you to start taking pregnancy vitamins straight away, folic acid and vitamin d are really important in the early stages. Don't take a normal multivitamin because too much vitamin a is harmful in pregnancy.

I'm also pregnant and am due a smear soon but my midwife told me to wait until I've had the baby before I get the smear, not sure if that's the general advice for everyone? You definitely need to ask the midwife or your gp before you go.

Take it easy x

I was due a smear while pregnant and was told to wait until 12 weeks after birth, that seems to be the general advice from what I've seen. As other posters have said you don't need to have your pregnancy confirmed, they will take your word for it and may just book you in straight in with the midwife (or give you the info to self-refer depending on your area).

Congrats on your pregnancy motherhood is terrifying but wonderful.

Congratulations ...ditched a loser but claimed a beautiful baby !!!!

Wishing you the best of luck! Please do go to GP just for your own benefit !

Ahh congratulations birdgal. I had DS1 on my own, it was lovely (tough going, but lovely). I loved the baby days when it was just him and I. He’s 16 now. He’s a wonderful boy.

I ended up getting together with his DF and had more DCs. 10 years together, and I’m once again a single parent. I still love it. (It’s still bloody tough going though!)!

Good supportive friends and family will get you through.

Congratulations on your pregnancy. I raised my first DS by myself until he was early 4 and I met my now-husband. It can be tough, but you're very blessed to have family support, it will make the world of difference to you and your little man or women.