Is this normal? Worried

[CobaltRose]

So, I just realised something and it has me worried.

I'm six weeks pregnant with my first child and don't get me wrong, I'm so excited. But...

I don't even really like kids that much. I adore babies and young toddlers (like 12-18 months old), but as soon as they're old enough to be sassy, throw tantrums, and say 'no' I'm like... Meh. I don't HATE them, I just have no idea what to do with them.

I've had literally no meaningful interaction with kids before, apart from my fiance's seven year old brother (who is stinkin' adorable and I love dearly). Most of the time I'm extremely awkward around kids and have no idea how to talk to them.

Oh, and even though I like babies I have no idea how to look after one. I've never changed a nappy, never bathed a baby, never even held a baby.

I'm terrified I'll feel ambivalent towards my own kid when they arrive. I'm terrified I'll be a bad mother. My mum has assured me that she felt exactly the same before she had kids and she's a wonderful mother, but that doesn't stop me from being terrified.

I can't wait to be a mother, I really can't. But I'm scared.

Yes it's normal. Believe me you'll soon learn how, you won't have a choice!

I have 2 kids and still don't like other people's children. Totally normal! It's different when they are yours

You’ll love yours, don’t worry. Also I find if you get to know them as people rather than as random children you can get to like them as friends regardless of age.
I really don’t like children but adore DS and like my friends’ children a lot.
Congratulations!

Yes you’ll love yours! I think a lot of people don’t like other people’s children but love their own!

Totally normal. Can't stand other people's kids.

I didn’t like children at all.Almost to the point of hating them and my DH was worried that we won’t have any DC.
But we have TTC and I wad remained pregnant when we almost lost hope.It was more for him then me to have children.
Now I have a 2months old angel of DD and I love her more then anything in the word. But I still don’t like other children.
It will be how one of my relations said to me: you don’t have to like other children you need to like yours and once you will have them you WILL love them. 😁she was right.

Aw dont worry. I had never even held a baby until I had one. For some mums its love at first sight, others it comes later. For all it is a steep but very worthwhile learning curve.

OP I find toddlers so annoying so I sympathise, I really do. Like, 'argh make it stop' annoying. I am dreading my little Nugget being a toddler-the screaming, the unreasonableness, the repetition...ahhh yes Gods I just reminded myself I have it all to come!!!

But I have been assured once they're here and when it's your own, you cope. Plus the more you put in when they are at this rather trying stage, the more you get out and I adore kids once they hit 4+ and you can start having regular conversations with them. I am told it's very different when it's your own! Here's hoping!

I was the same.

I'd say I've become more sympathetic towards kids like if they're hurt or something.

I have a 2 year old and remember dreading him turning into a toddler but I just love him more every day and now I can't wait for what the future holds.

I still dislike other kids. Was out earlier and my 2 year old walked over to another kid who looked the same age and literally just said "hello". This (horrid) kid snarled at him and went to push him. My boy ran back to me and asked for a cuddle. Kids like that remind me why I still hate other people's kids!

But it's different with your own :-)

Ps. I'm 32 weeks pg with no.2 and am actually dreading baby stage now although I feel very grateful to be pg and wouldn't change it for the world.

It's funny how things can change! I think u just get used to the phase you're in.

Congratulations on your pregnancy

I'd say it's very normal. I am not naturally maternal, I adore my DD but I still feel like a complete tit going to baby sensory and singing the bloody 'Hello' song and doing the actions, it makes me shudder. But I love DD to bits so I endure it for her. You don't have to coo over other people's kids to be a good mother, far from it. You'll be fine!

As for the changing nappies and stuff like that, well you will soon be a pro, you won't get much choice in that

I didn't like kids before I had my own.

Still don't like others much but I live mine beyond words.

It's normal, don't worry, you will love your own and soon learn what to do x