33 weeks and feeling like I can't do it much longer :(

[daisychaiinn]

I'm a single mum to a 3 year old and due my second in 7 weeks. I'm doing this completely alone (which I was FINE with) coping well, on mat leave now etc but I suddenly feel awful :(

I feel sick constantly but also starving, baby is measuring a couple of weeks ahead, I'm in constant discomfort, feeling extremely low in my mood. I'm snappy with my toddler, I'm just feeling like an awful human and feeling ill at the same time. Nothing eases the discomfort or the sad or the ill.

Have spoken to midwives and my GP. They are very dismissive and just say "it's just pregnancy" real unhelpful

I can't do this for another two months 😩😩

Daisy....saw your post and hoping someone will come along with some words of wisdom shortly. It is tough enough for anybody, let alone someone doing this on their own.
I am really sorry your GP and midwife were so dismissive. I have had nausea return also (35+4) and find that eating does help ease it a bit. It can be exhausting looking after a young child whilst pregnant...and a toddler especially difficult. Do you have any extended family who can lend a hand? I'm really sorry; this must be so tough going for you x

Give yourself a break. You’re doing amazing! Not many people can do it alone. It will be much easier soon (albeit not much sleep, depending on your baby and parenting style).
You’re massively uncomfortable right now but that weight will shift soon. I don’t have words of wisdom other than shop for some easy snacks for the toddler, pop some toys on the floor and put the tv on - get a load of pillows and collapse on your sofa. Make sure your toddler can’t toddle off out of your sight.
It’s two months to go and you should be resting and looking after yourself, your toddler will be absolutely fine and you’re still there

It's miserable and hard, but as you know, you just have to get through.
I'm a midwife and what I say to clients having a hard pregnancy
: don't focus on EDD. It just makes it feels endless and if you go past, you are truly pissed off
: work out the day it becomes the next week of pregnancy , eg 30 to 31 on Tuesday. That's your goal.Get there, tick it off.
: At the end of each day, congratulate yourself for getting there. Try and think of a positive thing for that day. Even if it's tiny. Don't let negative feelings drag you down.
: Give yourself treats and rewards. Try not to make them all sugary though!
: If there's anyone in your life who offers help, say "Thank you!" And accept. If they are vague, you be specific, invite you to dinner, take your toddler for an afternoon, sort out cupboards, etc.
: Every day is a new day and one day nearer to your baby. You will get there.

Is your 3 year old going to nursery? That might help you get some down time get a bit more energy? It could also help with bonding with baby.

You’re actually my hero. I’m struggling and have a partner. I don’t know how you’re doing it!!!

Hi, Daisy...just noticed that your little one is 3. My little one is at pre-school in the mornings...so she runs off energy there and is a lifeline for us at the moment...is your little one at a nursery/pre-school setting?

Then in the afternoons we have down time which unfortunately involves screens but I have little energy to do anything else but occasionally broken up by reading stories. Also, I usually put my pre-schooler in the bath in the afternoons...in there she enjoys water play, so it breaks up the screen watching and works well...I just don't have the energy to be chasing after her (she is 4 but an escape artist!). I had to learn to just do what I could...I am very frustrated because I feel I am short changing my dc (I am also far more irritable/short-tempered than usual as well) but this is just the way it is for now. This too shall pass is my mantra at the moment x