Are you finding out or have you found out if boy or girl?

[littlepooch]

This will be dc3 for us and has come as a bit of a shock though as we werent ttc but we are looking forward to it now and feel 3 will be lovely.

With my elder two DC we didn't find out and it was a lovely surprise. This time DH has amazed me by saying he would quite like to find out as he was the one before who was adamant he didn't want to know.

He's left it up to me but I can't decide what to do! Should we or shouldn't we find out. What have you all decided to do?

Brownbear84, exactly the same here. Two girls so fully prepared for another girl (though I would be perfectly happy with another girl, DH would like a boy I think). If it turns out to be a boy then happy surprise haha.

I'm pregnant with my first and haven't found out as we'd be happy with either and it makes no difference to us - id like the surprise on the day! It hasn't made it any harder to bond with the baby and it's not especially difficult to choose both boys and girls names.

We want more children in future though and I think I'd find out with subsequent pregnancies as it might help existing children to know, and for the reasons @PetraRabbit gave.

OP if you're not sure but your DH really wants to know maybe you should just find out for his sake? Would be different if you were strongly against it.

Personally I'd never ever want to know. I know it would completely ruin it for me. I think it's much nicer to find out when your baby is actually there with you.
Dh was very disappointed at the time when I point blank refused to find out. I think it was because we knew 2 other people who were pregnant and they both found out. But I promised him as soon as the baby was born he'd be glad we waited, and he was. He said next time he doesn't want to know, which pleased me because I know I won't.

I found out at 12 weeks with a harmony test. I was desperate to know. It’s my first and I just wanted to know more, connect more etc.

I thought about keeping it a surprise next time.. but when you give birth isn’t there
so many other feelings that the sex of the baby is just one thing amongst others? I haven’t given birth so am just wondering. I would imagine I’ll be most concerned that baby comes out without major complication, that they look healthy, and have all the exhaustion, pain and joy of that experience to feel.
Finding out early, when there was not much else to focus on except baby’s arrival months and months and months away have me time to really anticipate it, and savour the surprise.
But like I said, I haven’t given birth so it’s all speculation!

I found out with this one, but mainly because my firstborn was stillborn and I was really struggling to bond after what happened. Knowing she is another girl has really helped me come to terms with it all

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I also found out number 3 and will find out 4, mainly for the sake of my other children.

I had the blood test and im having a girl! I didnt think i was bothered either way but when the lady on the phone told me I screamed and cried with joy. I think its because knowing the gender makes it all a bit more real for me. I now think 'my daughter' and have a firm fave for a name.

I decided to find out because I like to be prepared. I have a son already so Im glad I found out it was a girl before the actual birth so I could get some girly stuff for her in preparation (as she will have majority boy themed things as hand me downs from her brother! hes mostly in to stereotypical boy things)
I dont suppose it truly matters if you dont find out because theres lots of gender neutral options you can use for items and clothing to prepare. Personally however I just liked finding out!

@Fia256 would you mind telling me the name of the place which does this? Thank you

@happytobemrsg Window to the womb. I think they have a few branches up and down the country

@Fia256 thank you I'll check them out! Not pregnant with DC2 yet but TTC soon. This seems like a lovely way to find out if having a boy or girl

@laura o did you do anything different to try conceive a boy or just hoping for the best? My husband would love a little boy xx

Update- I think we are going to find out. DH is really struggling with this surprise pregnancy and I'm hoping it might help him get his head round it all. He really wants to find out and whilst I would like a surprise I'm not so wedded to the idea and I'm sure it's lovely whenever you find out!

Of course!!! And keep the name a secret!! That's what we're gonna do xx

Yes will definitely keep name chat a secret!!!!

With DC1, I didn’t want to know and told my DH we wouldn’t be finding out. I’m usually a planner too but I wanted to find out at the end and have the moment of announcing whether we’d had a boy or girl rather than everyone already knowing everything except the weight. I’m pregnant with DC2 now and told my DH that if he wanted to know then we could find out this time but he said no so we’re having another surprise.

Whenever you find out will be special.

Found out with DD, was pleased that we did. We already had a girl name picked from when we found out I was pregnant, so didn't have to think about it until she was born, but if she'd been a boy we would've had enough time to make a decision!

Hopefully finding out what DC2 is tomorrow at the 20 week scan, for two reasons. One, we have no names AT ALL, and two, we're also telling DD (nearly 4) and she'll want/need to know. I can't take 20 weeks of "but is it a brother or sister, Mummy?!" If they can't tell us then we're planning on a private scan in a few weeks so she can come with us, so we'll find out then.

Ah @coodlemoodle - hope you managed to find out today!

Im actually feeling quite excited about finding out! now

Didn't find out with first baby! when HE was born it wasn't a surprise as I just knew but it was an amazing moment! Especially for my partner!
But found out with this baby because, honestly, I wanted a girl! Have had 3 scans all confirming it's a girl and I still can't quite believe it! Eventho it's very obvious from the scan pictures!
I will never ever ever forget that moment in the private 16 week scan when they told me! I was on cloud 9!

Suffering badly this pregnancy and the fact I know the sex has actually really helped me!
Also, flame me but I love girly babygrows and floral patterns so have bought some gorgeous bits and i still get emotional when I am sorting out her things!

No idea what I would do if we had a 3rd tho!!!!!!!!

Also, because I was so scared they got the scans wrong I've done quite a lot of research on 'when they get it wrong'
And pretty much every single time that's happened there is a back story of 'baby was in a bad position' 'old equipment' 'rubbish sonographer'
'We didn't get a picture' 'unclear picture'
'Too early I.e 15 weeks'

These private places wouldn't have a business if they kept getting it wrong! And TBH you can see with your own eyes if they get a good angle and a decent 'potty shot' picture!
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Thanks @littlepooch! We did find out - it's a boy! DD is thrilled at the moment, we'll see how long for We would've wanted to know anyway, it helped us bond last time and obviously helps cuts the possible names list in half!

Good luck with it all!

I will be finding out. I feel like I need to know so I can mentally prepare. Having a baby is a big enough shock when it arrives. If they couldn't tell me at my 20 week scan I wouldn't be able to wait - I'd have to get a private scan.
If I was told the wrong sex that would be terrible! Lol! How can they say it's a boy when it's a girl? What was that they were looking at?
Also I would never publicly name my baby before having it. A facebook friend did this when she found out she was having a boy and when he was born there was only the weight left to announce!

We found out with our first and the had two surprises,
Surprise number two and three were both surprise pregnancies and surprise number three arrived two weeks after we moved house 😱 three kids under four!!

I've know and not known. And I'd choose a surprise again every single time

Oh and that moment... the moment the baby arrives and my husband tells me whether it's a boy or a girl by the name we've chosen...
I'm not having any more. But I'll never forget those moments.

@caviarandcigarettes - it's interesting to get a view from someone who has done both. I will never forget when my husband told me that it was a girl - particularly with our second as we were so convinced it she was a boy that it was such a wonderful surprise!

I will have 3 under 3 - slightly scared but I'm sure it will be ok :)