MMC & confused

[custardcream5]

Hi all...

I hope this won't be too long as just hoping to get some kind of clarity as it seems a professional opinion is out of the question now.

I am in the middle of a missed miscarriage which I had to induce on Monday, I was 8 weeks pregnant & the sonographer did not offer me much information at all about how these things can happen and now the initial shock has lifted I feel completely confused & anxious about providing a future sibling for my DD3...

My pregnancy did not progress, so they saw a perfect gestational sac but nothing inside that sac. I had no idea until the scan, i have had all the usual pregnancy symptoms & am still suffering with some whilst the hormones leave my body.

I have limited info about the possibility of a 'blighted ovum' & did mention this to the sonographer as a reason but she quickly brushed that off 'as not in this case' but offered me nothing else, she only said it 'would have happened at conception'

Does anyone have any experience of this or know a possible reason, where possible that there would be no foetus. My concern is that it's a problem with me and my DP although the sonographer did say everything looked 'healthy' from the quick look around inside me she did do.

I know I am probably asking for the impossible as of course no one really knows why so many women have miscarriages but I just wanted some if any information, we feel totally lost...

Petrified of this happening again although we will now be paying for early scans etc...

My heart goes out to any women who is/ has gone through this it's the most awful cruel thing...

I’m sorry you are going through this.
I had a mmc found at the 12 week scan. Baby had stopped developing at 6 weeks.
It was my first pregnancy. I’m a firm believer that it just wasn’t meant to be. I appreciate some people need more than that.
I’m now 26 weeks into my second pregnancy.

I’m so sorry that you’re going through this. It’s truly awful.

I had a mmc with my first pregnancy under similar circumstances - routine 12 week scan but our baby had died at 6 weeks. I was told that as only the foetal pole and yolk sac were visible at that stage, chances were that there had been a developmental issue, more than likely relating to the baby’s heart or other major organs, and nature essentially takes over and stops any further growth as a consequence.

I was also told that the chances of a repeat (unless it was a molar pregnancy) were extremely slim and it was just ‘bad luck’. Of course being told this does absolutely no favours at a time when all you want is answers. I think the most difficult part for me was not knowing how it had occurred and therefore couldn’t prevent it happening again.

I’m now 8 weeks (ivf pregnancy) and would recommend early scans if you can next time. If you’ve been through mmc, in my opinion, you should automatically qualify for close monitoring in early pregnancy but sadly this isn’t the case. Being scanned early hasn’t eliminated my anxiety, but it’s certainly helping.

Take care and I hope this has helped a little.