Baby Number 4 is another boy!

[3boysandababyontheway]

Probably in the wrong thread but....

I am pregnant with baby number 4. I have said from day 1 that this would be our last baby.
I have just had a scan at 25 weeks and although the sonographer didnt say what baby was, there was no denying that baby is a boy.
I know I shouldn't but I feel so deflated. I had convinced myself that this time I would get a girl and had been picturing pretty dresses and lots of pink.
I know I should be happy that baby is healthy, which I am, but I can't shake the feeling of missing out on a mother and daughter bond.
I love all 3 of my boys to bits and i know I will love this little one just as much but it still hurts.
Everywhere I look there is baby girls, or mums with their daughter and girly clothes in the shops.
I truly thought that this time I was carrying a girl.
Please tell me I'm not the only one feeling like this and it does get better

Thanks Bue. I know I can't be the only one out there who has felt like this. I just felt a little gutted to be honest but I'm over it. What will be will be. It's nature after all. I'm Just glad he is healthy and growing as he should. After having a premature baby with my 1st I really shouldn't fret the small stuff

You can't help the way you feel OP, as you said - you love all your children and I'm sure it's not that you're disappointed about your baby, more a longing for what might have been.
I was shocked at some of the random comments I got from strangers when one of mine was born including "oh, got it right at last then hahaha" in front of my other children, to which I always look confused and ask what they mean - they're usually too embarrassed to explain themselves. Worst was when partner's dad's GF was over to see newborn dc4 and said ".....and is dad disappointed?" My blood boiled. She was lying on a mat on the floor gazing at her new world all tiny and vulnerable and I felt all tiger-mum, said "no, we're all delighted", scooped my baby up and had to leave the room in case I ended up telling the GF to fuck off. Which with hindsight I should have.
Hope the rest of your pregnancy goes smoothly

Congrats OP. I have 3 boys and the negative comments when I was pregnant with no 3 were unbelievable...I can't imagine what it would be like to be expecting a 4th boy (which I may find out at some point because I'm not sure I'm done, and apparently it's not a case of 50/50 when you have a few of the same sex already - you're much more likely to keep going with the same sex).

Agree that the older generation are much worse! My MIL's reaction upset me so much I couldn't sleep that night!! Still haven't forgiven her (not that she's apologised or ever will).

I'm sure girls are wonderful but all I know is an all boy household and it's better than I could have ever imagined!! I'd love to add another boy to my brood! Huge congrats with the pregnancy x

@westeringhome oh my god that is appalling!!!

The tiger mum thing I totally get - when my in laws expressed disappointment I was so cross because even though all they could see was me with a belly, I could feel my little boy wriggling around and he was very very real. Cannot believe someone would say that with baby on the outside