Hi - it's the first time posting on this talk.
Today I found out that I am 9 weeks pregnant which came totally unexpected and unplanned. I have a 11month old and I just feel that we're coming into a much easier period, although I have not had a full night sleep since she was born. My partner has children from a previous marriage who come and stay with us. They all get on really nicely and it's all very beautiful, and I think we are very lucky that we can say that.
However, with four children my partner already is exhausted - dividing his attention, juggling work and of course financial pressure that comes with it. You all know, i'm sure!
His immediate reaction was that he can't cope with another one, feeling already super stretched with everything going on. He wants us to consider an abortion, saying that he we could talk about another baby at a later stage. However, I think it's general decision of having another one and now it is there already.
My initial reaction, I cried. I just found my feet, started work again (i work from home /self-employed), had a few evenings out. But the same time I did never consider an abortion and immediately thought that it will be VERY hard but we will manage somehow.
However, I will need a partner to cope with it. And I do understand him fully. We somehow need to make a decision without jeopardising our relationship in the long-run. There's so much to think about.
Any thoughts or experiences are much appreciated.
Thank you.