Always feel like I'm being compared to others.. Which makes me less likely to talk to her (dm)

[ExhaustedAndHormonal]

So me and my sis are both expecting within days of each other which is amazing as the kids will grow up really close. As to our other dcs.

Now this is what really agitates me about my dm I know she likes to compare or ' tell each of us about the other' before we do ( we see each other weekends)
So each time sis has a MW appointment, my mother gives me the run down of, oh her babies big. Or oh she's showing a lot more than you, oh they think her baby is back to back.. Etc
And I know she tells my sis about my appointments.
Which is really frustrating as when me and my sis see each other at the weekends or talk on the phone, and we say about things, we already have been Informed by mother about the other one.

All I get lately is, sis is bigger than you. She's definitely massive. Shes all front. You're more rounded blab blah. ( tui be fair she's slimmer than me to start with and wears clingy clothes. I've worn baggy jumpers and look much different in more. Fitted clothes but don't feel Comfortable, not that it matters as Everyone is different)

It's starting to piss me off big time. I've tried telling her and so has my sis and even our dps, but she really don't see the problem in it.

Now recently I've had bad anemia resulting in being quite ill, growth issues and had a few episodes of reduced movement.. This first two, iDidn't even tell her about.
The one the weekend ( another thread) I did purely as I have to have a scan Monday and needed to see, If dc can go to hers from school in case im not done in time.

Since then, I've had nothing but texts asking, Has baby moved.? YES.. And hour later.. Same question YES. and so forth literally hourly .. In the end I replied. Well if baby hadn't then I'd be up the hospital as advised wouldn't I?
Then I get are you still going for scan. YES of course, why wouldn't I?

I don't mean to be so short but I know it's so she can tell sis before I do.. And Low and behold sis and Bro in law both text to see what's been happening ( didn't see them this weekend because we've been busy plus the time being up the Hospital so had planned to mid week)

I feel so agitated by it all, maybe its the hormones, and I'm sure she means we'll but dumb ass questions like ' are you still. Going to scan' are just irritating.. As why would I risk my baby not to.??

I'm already stressed as if any issues at scan, they've said they'll look to induce as nearly 38 weeks anyway so I just wanted to try and relax and make sure everything is done, especially that my DS is sorted etc.

Sorry had to rant

Stop telling her everything. I had to do this with my MIL. ANY thing I confided in her about my DD (first baby) she would obsess over and go on and on about it to me and constantly think up "fixes" for the issue.

I had to completely stop telling her things!

I think it is the hormones maybe. I can't see she's doing much wrong. She sounds really interested in her childrens pregnancies. Mildy annoying maybe with repeated questions but nothing sinister.

And when 2 people are close to each other and pregnant they compare pregancies sometimes don't they? And people around them maybe too? I could see your point if she was saying your sister looks tiny and you're fucking massive but she's not is she.

Call your sis the day before you see your mum so she has nothing to tell you. Don't tell her everything, it sounds like she is living through you.

Yeah I don't think you're Mum is doing anything that unusual. She wants you and baby to be ok and she talks to both her children. She's not been rude or mean. Just a tad irritating, which is normal isn't it?!

I’d stop telling her things or have a word with her- let her know you’re happy she’s excited for you both but you don’t want to be compared.

My brothers partner is due a few days after me and I’d hate to be compared like that- although I guess it’s different as we aren’t close and I wasn’t exactly thrilled to be expecting at the same time!

I had a 20 week scan on Friday and my mother hasn’t even asked me how it went... in a way you’re lucky she’s obviously very excited and wants to be involved :)

It sounds like she's just excited about both of you being pregnant and it's normal to compare to someone else whos due at a similar time (although its annoying). It doesn't sound like she's doing anything deliberately to annoy you she's just very excited and its annoying you even more because of your hormones. Just go with it, its not forever and if you were to say something to her I think it would really upset her by the sounds of things. Maybe just dont tell her everything and save some news for your sister.