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[Alicia993]

hi everyone.

Just need some help. I found out last week that I was pregnant. Big shock and to only find out Thursday that I am 19 weeks pregnant.....

I slept with my ex boyfriend end of September so week commencing the 18th... some point that week. And somebody else on October the 21st.

I am due the 3rd July. Now according to apps etc I would of already been a month pregnant when I slept with that person in October.

I was measured at 18 weeks aswell but again apps state I'm 20 weeks.

Can anyone help me shed some light? I just don't know what to do. My family do not want me to have this child but as im so far gone I just don't know if I can do that to myself. Adoption is also a no no answer too.....

Please let me know your thoughts

xxxx

If you'll be doing this without either father, than I don't suppose it makes too much difference. If they want to be involved as far as I know (I'm no expert) you'd have to wait until post birth and do a DNA test to confirm, as dates and ovulation can't always be accurate, even if you're regular. (I say that as somebody who is currently pregnant, and by both my period date, and the scan measurement, it should have been impossible for me to conceive the month I did based on when we DTD).
If you will be raising the baby as a single mother, it won't be easy, but you'll cope. Your family will likely come around when they meet him/her if not before.

for you

Hi love
I don’t have any experience in this situation but I just wanted to show some support.
If abortion and adoption is out of the question for you, then you don’t have any other choices but to have this baby. You must be scared stiff and by the sounds of it, don’t have much support.
But if your having this baby no matter what then it doesn’t matter about who the father is but I suggest letting them both know the truth (if you have contact) incase they want to be a part of the babies life. They have every right too. And then have a DNA test done once the baby is here.
I also think that though your family don’t want you to have the baby (I’m sure that it’s just because they hoped, like most parents and loved ones do, that you’d be in a slightly better situation) that once that little baby is here, they will adore and love it like they love you.
You will be fine. Even if you have to do this alone. Remember, you will never be alone, not with your little one by your side.
But if you don’t mind me asking, how on earth did you not know you were pregnant for so long?

When was your first missed period? The midwife should be able to help work it out given it is a month between the sexual activity

My due date is 2nd July, sex for conception was 12th October.

I'm 21 weeks tomorrow so if they recently measured you at 18 weeks I'd think it's the October sex you fell pregnant with. However, no one can tell you for sure unless you to a paternity test.

I am due the month before you and conceived in September so I'd say if you conceived 18th Sept you'd have an earlier due date

I'm due 30th June...21 weeks... Conceived 10th October... So I'm guessing it's the October one too... But a paternity test to be sure. Follow your heart with regards to baby... Single parenting is definitely possible and maybe your family will come around but don't do anything you don't want to do... Best of luck xx