MIL always know JUST what to say....

[Twitchett22]

So im 38 weeks, miserable and fed up and just want this baby out. MIL comes over tonight, asks how I'm feeling and I tell her I'm fed up of waiting and just want to meet baby now. Her reply: 'well you've got to have it soon you can't really get much bigger can you' (i really didn't think I was that big compared to others i know at the same stage of pregnancy).
Later in the evening she makes a comment about water retention and tells me she can 'really see it in me now' (again, not something I've thought I've really suffered with) but now I'm getting more tired im looking more 'puffy'.
Does every un-pregnant person think its socially acceptable to insult pregnant women because they're pregnant so its 'not forever'?
38 weeks is not the time to remind a very tired and hormonal lady how shit she looks

Just remember soon you will be thinner but she will still be a cow.

Start insulting her back!

The first thing my MIL said to me upon entering the hospital ward after i'd given birth was, God, you look like shit. Err thanks you horrible witch.

Are you retaining water?

I think you may be being slightly sensitive.

Twitchett, I was wondering what gives (strangers in my case) the right to make these types of comments - are you sure you haven't got twins in there and you look fit to burst amongst my favourites. I am 34+4 and feeling the same way as you...that I just want to meet my baby now. I do look enormous and conscious of this now...I had lost two stone pre pregnancy and was receiving compliments for this and now it has all piled back on...but more than this, it is my level of fitness in general that has suffered and I want to get back to feeling more agile, able to go for nice long walks (or even short walks with ease), able to climb the stairs without becoming breathless etc. etc. I'm sorry you are getting comments like this, it is not helpful and what do people really think they are achieving by making these sorts of comments anyway. Can you just avoid her as much as possible for the time being...that's what I would be inclined to do x

snowy

thanks for those replies, made me laugh. I'm not being sensitive it didn't upset me it just always amazes me how people think they can say anything they want because you're pregnant. She wouldn't dream of telling me how fat I'd gotten if I wasn't pregnant. Can't wait for the comments on my post birth body

God you're not being sensitive at all! I still remember the 'big' comments from my first pregnancy, expecting dc2 now and nothing yet...won't be long though I'm sure!

MIL is a very large lady in height and frame and I'm a naturally petite size 8. I was about 30 weeks complaining that my work clothes don't fit me anymore and I'm going shopping for few cheap bits to keep me going. She then goes to her wardrobe and says, "I've got these open cardigans you can borrow but they probably won't fit you and I don't want you stretching them out with your big arms"....my 30week pregnancy belly and arms were much smaller than hers and they were open cardigans!! It really felt like she was just enjoying being spiteful!!

I've also had the "are you sure it's not twins". It really feels like everyone thinks it's fine to openly talk about your appearance when you're pregnant, I've never commented on any pregnant ladies figures before.

Drives me crazy!! People can be so bloody rude. This thread has reminded me that I need some retorts... my favourites are: “so tell me, when are you getting those teeth sorted out”...and “have you thought about getting a nose job/hair transplant, it would make SUCH a wonderful difference to how you look” 😂

And then when they look horrified, say “sorry, I thought we were really bonding with all of this feedback”

My MIL had a go at me the other week because I'd got so huge that the baby was surely going to be massive and so wouldn't fit into all the clothes she'd got for it.

Aside from the fact that you can't really tell baby size from bump size, my fundal height measurements are spot on and weight gain is low side
of normal so I'm not even big! It upset me for days after. I'm 33 weeks btw.

If it does nothing else but bring a smile to your faces, first time I took DD to meet my DH's auntie, instead of going straight for the baby she looked at me and said "oh, you've lost weight". Made me chuckle.