Pil are here. I'm dying on my arse.

[SpecialistBurnham]

Pil are visiting. They don't go home til Wednesday...

After a history of mmcs, a couple of years of infertility then clomid, only Dh and I know that I am now 7wks pg (or about the fertility drugs). I don't want to tell anyone until at least 12wks, as in my heart of hearts I don't believe I will get that far, and selfishly don't want to deal with other people's feelings about it as well as my own, complicated, feelings. I might've confided in my mum this week, but she has been unwell herself for a few months and I can't burden/worry her.

However, I'm absolutely knackered. I've never been sick in pg, but I sometimes wonder if that would be easier than the constant feeling of being really unwell and the bone melting exhaustion of being on my feet more than a few minutes at a time. I've never been this bad before, I don't know what to do with myself.

I couldn't hide it anymore yesterday and had to lay down, claiming a headache and unspecified 'virus' symptoms and must've looked rough because they took control of the day and entertained my 7yr old beautifully. I've used the same excuse today. But I can't keep it up til they leave!

I'm going to have to 'get better' and tough it out, but jeesus I've never wished to fast forward time so much in my life. If anyone has a time machine, jump to Wednesday afternoon please I beg you .

Anyway, I just fancied a moan and I feel a bit better for doing so.

It's only till Wednesday and some viruses bugs last that long . Just say you have flu or a virus . No need to tell them anything other than your just not well

I know. I just feel guilty. We had a couple of days out planned (sent dh alone with them today), a very rare wider family get together tomorrow, and I had promised to escort them through London to their station to get home. They don't have their car here and we're fairly rural. I am basically functional, even if I'm unhappy about it, and would feel awful exaggerating/fabricating symptoms for that long.
Oh there's nothing like a good moan!

The fact you are having pregnancy symptoms is good op. Hormones are kicking in and doing their magic stuff.
Hope it goes well.

I agree with snowy about symptoms . Sounds very positive that your feeling so poorly . I know it's awful for you but it means the pregnancy hormones are strong

I know just how you feel. I was tramped all over Scotland with the in-laws on a 'finding their ancestry' weekend, in early pregnancy. They didnt know and i was dragged round graveyards and old buildings. We were up in the highlands driving up and down bloody mountains and dp had to keep stopping for me to be sick. I was exhausted but had to keep smiling and nursing the odd glass of wine so No one noticed.
Paint your smile on. Do as little as you can get away with. It'll be over soon!

I'd claim some sort of Flu like illness, it's definetly doing the rounds just now so it's not unbelievable. Rest when your body tells you to and do what you can when you can, they will probably just think you are a trooper for trying your best. It's a little white lie for the greater good.
I've got everything crossed for you!

Greater goods probably the wrong term, I mean it's a little white lie that saves you stress, worry and exhausting yourself

Thanks all

Justgivemesomepeace - it sounds like you are also married to my dh and my pil are also yours I suppose I can be very grateful that they have come to me this time!