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Nesting Ferociously

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Lavenderdays · 16/02/2018 14:31

Just need a rant and a safe place to vent. I appreciate these are insignificant things in the great scheme of things but suddenly they seem massive and very important to me today.

Nothing is right with my house today. Everything is a tip, every single room (in my mind at least). My patience has finally snapped (I am 34+2 today). I have a kitchen extension waiting to get off of the ground - my kitchen is small, dark and dingy and the cabinets are at least 30 years old. I am also waiting for new double glazing to be installed - placing order straight after baby comes along - long story, some of my windows have been sealed up to prevent drafts etc. Then there is the boiler that is only half working and not heating up the downstairs radiators properly (waiting to put a new one in the kitchen extension so no point spending a fortune on it now) and relying on an open fire which has a piece of newspaper in front of it as draught excluder (will now find a proper draught excluder for this). My pre-schooler (who has her own playroom - albeit on the small side) cannot move in her playroom for the sheer amount of toys...some of these toys have drifted into the lounge which now looks like an extension of her playroom - also into the dining room and everywhere else. Next plan is to cull the playroom and clear the lounge of clutter but honestly how have we managed to accumulate so much plastic crap (we have been given a load of it - friends with older children). My pre-teen well I purely shut her bedroom door and hope for the best. Usually, I let all of these things go over my head because I know that they are at least in the process of being sorted and don't matter in the grand scheme of things but today I seemed to have entered a ferocious nesting mode where things have got to be sorted NOW - I have already gutted my bookshelf because we are literally inundated with books and this was a struggle for me...I can only put all of this down to nesting. Suddenly everything in my house looks dirty, worn or muddily (and the kids are starting to look feral) and dh is getting an earful about everything (he is a helpful husband to be fair) which although venting makes me feel better in the short term, also makes me want to collapse into a hormonal mess and have a good cry because I cant keep on top of things...Of course, EVERYONE else's house is immaculate in my mind (mainly because they don't have young children anymore) and they are all having a jolly nice time...Grhhh, I know I'm hopefully, going to have a lovely new baby at the end of this but I am an older mum and I don't suppose it is helped by the fact that all of my friends have older children and have managed to de-clutter their homes of plastic tat or converted any spare playroom into something different because it is no longer needed. Also, the sheer fact that they can get out and about unencumbered, whist I have grown enormous and walking up and down stairs has become a struggle in itself. Chocolate, I need chocolate! And then, I'm going to sit in the garden for 10 minutes in the sunshine and cool down x

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Lavenderdays · 16/02/2018 14:31

Blimey, sorry for the epic rant...I doubt anyone will be bothered to read that!

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GottaBeStrong · 17/02/2018 15:29

I'm 22+4 and I feel the same way. To be fair, the house actually is a tip as I moved in with my OH and he had a lot of sorting of his stuff to do, which has only been partially done and I added my stuff to it. We seem to live in perpetual mess and I just want it all fixed now and yet I don't feel well enough to do it. I don't have the energy. I want it all decluttered, clean, tidy and homely... It's hideous staring at it all and it gets to the point where I don't do anything about it because I don't know where to start. x

Lavenderdays · 17/02/2018 16:12

Well, after chocolate and fresh air, I asked dh to move the lounge around and get rid of (hide) some of the clutter. It has made a big difference already, now I feel we have least claimed some adult space back from all of my pre-schooler's toys...soon, it is likely to be filled with baby paraphernalia instead though!

Nothing much I can do about the other things right now though...kitchen, boiler, etc. these will just have to evolve over the next few months x

Feeling slightly calmer (and too rubbish) to do very much else at the moment.

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GottaBeStrong · 17/02/2018 18:20

Chocolate sounds good. It's amazing what a few changes can do to make things feel better. I'm hoping to crack on tomorrow and reclaim some space from goodness knows what.

WineAndTiramisu · 17/02/2018 20:42

We've been renovating our house for a year now, I'm 31 weeks and starting to get very grumpy and stressed, there's no heating or water yet, and it looks like we'll be moving back in when I'm about 39 weeks, so I know where you're coming from!Grin

Lavenderdays · 17/02/2018 21:42

Oh no, Wine...that sounds stressful...at least the weather should be a bit warmer by the time your dc is born x

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elvesareneverhappy · 18/02/2018 10:03

I totally relate and I'm only 27 weeks. I've decided that I'm going to buy all the things we've been talking about for 5 years to improve the house. I have told DH we are painting the landing, stairs and sitting room in the next month because we've put it off for 5 years and it needs to be done now. I'm hoping by the time this baby arrives our house will be unrecognisable! Just need to do something with the other 3DCs....

FranticallyPeaceful · 18/02/2018 11:19

I know how you feel! It’s driving me crazy and I know the real nesting phase for me always hits around 35 weeks, so what I’m feeling now (26weeks) is likely nothing in comparison!

My dog is annoying me because he’s so hairy, I’ve developed an allergy to my cat (again) in pregnancy so I’m trying to keep him from going upstairs at least, these two things result in me vacuuming to an inch of my life every day.

my OH works away during the week and every day he’s home at the weekend he’s painting a room or were spending the day at IKEA then he’s spending his night building stuff or filling out some other kind of random demand I have around the house. He’s off for two days this week to work from home so we’re on a mission to rid the house of clutter and do tip run after tip run.

Nothing seems good or clean enough right now

Lavenderdays · 18/02/2018 13:41

I think even dh has started to nest a bit now there is approx. 4 weeks to go. He does more than his fair share of housework anyway but this morning he has been manically vacuuming (pulling out stuff for a proper clean)....long may it continue!

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