Missed miscarriage

[albanie]

Hi all,

Sadly I found out today I have had a missed miscarriage I would of been 8 weeks today.
Basically there was a sac visible but nothing inside.

I was given the options of an operation which I have decided is not for me as I don't want to be put under anaesthetic, to take the tablets at home to start the process or to wait for two weeks to pass the pregnancy naturally if that even happens, I left because I wanted to wait but tbh I think I was more in shock.

Now I am home I am thinking maybe I should of taken the tablets because I am having pregnancy symptoms which I now know are for nothing, sickness and tiredness and have a two year old so feel maybe it's better managed.

Just looking for advice really? I had a termination many years ago so I know kind of what to expect but feel very scared because the pain was terrible...

I just feel scared in general and so empty and sad...

I’m so sorry, albanie, it’s so cruel. I hope you’ve got support, and someone to help with your toddler. I’ve had two surgically managed mmcs, so can’t comment on other options but there is a good board here soecifically for pregnancy loss, so you might get more info there?
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/miscarriage

I'm so very sorry for your loss. Mmc is so cruel, especially when you still feel all the pg symptoms.

I've had a few of these and had medical management (pills) once and the op twice. Honestly if in the same situation again, I would go straight for the op given the choice. The pills don't always work and in my case at least they caused v painful contractions (I actually passed out) and had to be followed up with the op anyway. With the op it's all resolved so much more quickly and reliably. But of course you must do what's right for you and your situation.

So sorry that you're even having to think about this

Had a MMC last year at 12weeks - it was devastating so I completely sympathise. When the options came up I was only interested in the op as I just wanted it over and done with. I don't have a problem with anaesthetic so it was an easy choice but I know it isn't for everyone. For what it's worth I was well looked after pre and post op and felt a lot better after (all the pregnancy sickness feeling had gone) and bleeding lasted for about 2 weeks but wasn't painful. What I will say is that whichever option you choose you will need support. Be selfish. Cry and eat cake - go away for the weekend. Do whatever you need to feel better. Sending love and hugs xx

Im sorry OP, its really shit.

I had a mmc a couple of years ago, I waited a couple of weeks to see if it started naturally, it didn't so I took the tablets.
I'd decided against the op as I felt I needed to go through the process of passing the pregnancy in order to deal with things mentally.
And also I was aware of the risk of Asherman's (i know it's tiny, but it was enough to stop me).
You can get back in touch with epu and ask for tablets/ op if you have changed your mind about what you want the next step to be.

So sorry to hear your sad news. I had a mmc last September which was discovered at 10 weeks. I went for the tablet option and I found it physically very tough for the three days after taking them but after that I was fine physically. One thing I will say is if you go for the tablet is there anyone who can look after your 2 year old out of your house. I have a 3 year old who stayed at her gps for a few days to allow me time to get through it. Maybe TMI but I barely left the bathroom, day or night, for the first 2 days and I know if my dd had been at home she would have found it confusing and maybe a bit frightening.
Whatever you decide I hope you're ok.