Howbam.i going to get through the next few weeks 😭

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I am nearly 34 weeks and seriously struggling. I have a very active 12 month old who I am a sahm to, and my energy is now at an all time low.

I have never felt so exhausted in my life.

I have terrible SPD which is making moving around difficult and uncomfortable.

Baby keeps me awake alot at night as he is very active in the womb and it's verging on painful.

I have absolutely no help what so ever during the week, no family close by, and husband works full time running his own business.

He has offered to stay at home for an extra hour or so in the morning a couple of days a week, but even with that I feel like I am dead on my feet.

My due date feels so far away and I'm so miserable, please tell me I can do this :(

This sounds very tough. Would you be able to find a part time nursery place for your 12 month old for maybe two days a week just to give you a bit of a break? I know they’d need to settle etc but it may also help to get a bit of a break once the newborn arrives too?

Or I know family don’t live close but could anyone travel to stay with you for a few weeks to help look after your little one while you rest.

It seems a long time to go but it’s only fairly short term now, in 2 months you will be lighter, more comfortable without the SPD. I really hope the time passes quickly for you.

Are you able to send the 12 month old to a nursery for a few days a week to give you some time to rest?

Or could you find activities for the 12 month old which you could supervise from the sofa?

You have my sympathies. Just remember you won't feel like this forever

Unfortunately nursery isn't an option for financial reasons, and all family work full time and live over 100 miles away.

Husband has just left for work after giving me my second lie in in over a year and I could just cry.

My daughter has always been extremely clingy and needy with me, she will not tolerate me sitting on the sofa at all, she gets very upset if I have my phone out for even a moment as she instantly wants it so I can't even have a chat on the phone to keep myself sane.

The only thing that gets me through the week is going to baby groups and classes to stop me going stir crazy, but now I don't even have the energy for that so I'm just stuck in the house sat on the floor all day whilst she crawls and whines all over me 😭

Feel like I am actually losing it.

You poor thing, it sounds so hard on you at the moment. Is there anyone at all near you who would help in a small way, like an older neighbour who might bring your dd for a walk for an hour? Or a teenager who would come in an play with her while you rest.
There may be lovely people nearby, happy to help out, especially when it's a short term. If you were near me I'd love to help, but wouldn't dream of knocking to offer help as I'd feel like a weirdo.

If I were in your situation I would ask family for help. My family live 350 miles away and In-laws much further. If I explained how desperate I was then I think someone would take some time off work to come and stay, or if they couldn’t I would ask to borrow some money to pay for childcare, or a combination of both. Is there really no one who you could ask?

@coffeeforone...no there really isn't, most of the friends I have have very young babies of their own, or they work full time. My sister has young children and my mum and I have a very fractious relationship so that isn't an option.

Mil is completely lacking in any understanding, tried to explain to her at the weekend that I was struggling with SPD...her response was to just bang on about how she suffers from restless legs followed by her sprawling herself across the sofa whilst i hobbled around making her lunch.

I have an older neighbor who I asked for help a short time ago, and she basically as good as said no, and has ghosted me ever since so won't be going down that route again.

It's been like this from day one and I know I just have to get on with it, it's just so so hard.

I appreciate the sympathy and kind words though, it makes me feel less alone in this situation.

I guess all of this might have been heightened by the fact that I turned 30 this week and barely heard from anyone. I think I'm just having a really horrible week.

You really do have my sympathies. It sounds so difficult for you at the moment, without being able to access support from family.

Also, does your husband work 7 days a week? Maybe he needs to cut back to 5 for the next few weeks to give you a couple of days off. Is his business something he could close occasionally or let someone else take care of things while he takes care of you and your DD, its only for a month or so?

Also, does your little one like watching TV, ipad? i'd make use of that as much as possible for the time being.

I did know someone who was induced at 37 weeks as she couldn't cope due to severe SPD. Could that be something worth discussing with your midwife to shorten the suffering?

That does sound really tough. I had horrible spd and I can't imagine how tough it is with a lo too.

You mentioned the baby groups, do you know any one you could text from there to ask if they would mind taking your lo with them. I'd gladly do that if someone asked me but I probably wouldn't think to ask.

Stop helping people who don't help you, no way would I hobble round for a selfish mil!

As someone else said, the iPad is your friend. See if lo will snuggle up with you in bed with something to watch while you doze.

Do let your midwife know how painful things are, early induction is an option

No advice sadly but I’m in it with you! DS is 14 months and I’m 34 weeks with DD. Exhausted!!!!! Don’t be afraid to switch on some children’s music on YouTube! We’ve also invested in lots of puzzle type toys, giggle eggs, bricks, magnet animals and boards etc that are rotated and keep DS entertained for a while!

You can do this! It’s not easy but you’ve already come this far. I also nap with DS every day 12-14.00. Going to miss this when new baby comes