People drinking around your baby?

[GeorginaFall]

Hi everyone - just wondering what people do when they have guests/family round with a small baby at home? I would not feel comfortable drinking around someone else's baby as I wouldn't have all my faculties if I picked them up etc, but I mentioned that to my family and they were horrified at the idea of coming for lunch and not having wine or beer etc. Also not sure if I would want people drunk around me all the time while I am sober and breastfeeding etc. What does everyone else do about this? Do you just let people drink but then not let them touch the baby?

If they’re wasted then no, YANBU at all.

Hmmm...I'm not sure I'd want my children around drunk people anyway. What will happen when the baby is a toddler? Are you going Gabri have a no touching the toddler rule? It all sounds very much like hard work. I think I'd stop having them to my house, only visit them and leave when I felt they'd had enough to drink.

If I had relatives like that I wouldn’t be inviting them around for lunch/dinner/gatherings, whatever age my children were!

I have no problem at all with people (including me, even when I was bf)drinking around my children. My family will usually have a beer or some wine when they come over for a meal and we eat out in pubs fairly regularly. Nobody's ever drunk though and I think that's the difference isn't it? Could you not just invite them around for a meal but get them to leave after food and a few drinks?

DS1 came with me to the pub for lunch several times as a baby.

Maybe you could say that hosting a big family lunch is a bit much for you to be doing with a new baby, and ask if someone else could host and perhaps you contribute some dishes? That way you can leave easily if you feel uncomfortable.

Just don't have them round for Sunday lunch if that means they are going to drink 'bottles and bottles of wine' and be so drunk it makes you uncomfortable. Surely you knew that before you arranged it?

You don't want your baby around pissheads, not alcohol. That's the real problem here.

So is it just when you have a baby? Will your toddler be ok round people drinking lots of acohol? Should they really be exposed to that level of intoxication if it really is that bad?

Sounds like that is the issue you need to address. Not just ‘I don’t want people drinking around my baby’

And fair enough if you don’t want to drink while breastfeeding but it is safe to do so (not in massive quantities obviously) so don’t act a martyr

You dont have to serve alcohol at your home you know. You dont have to buy it or keep it at home or serve it to visitors.

If it is not there they cant drink it.

I also find it highly unlikely that you're family would get paralytic drunk at your home as how would they get home themsleves.