Hormones or mistake?!

[Lilyjac]

Help me 😩 so I have two children from a previous relationship, it’s been us 3 in the only house they’ve known for five years now. I’ve been with my partner for 3yrs and we always talked about moving in together/having a baby. He was patient as knew I wasn’t ready but last year I said let’s do it, I want this. As soon as i fell pregnant I was so ill, my nose was so senestive I couldn’t bare his smell, the smell of his clothes, hair gel, breath anything! I got so depressed because I was so ill and unhappy, we haven’t seen each much for quality time due to me still being quite poorly so have drifted apart abit, bickering a lot but I have put that down to my hormones. We’ve found a house and I only have two months left in this one. And I’m terrified. What if it doesn’t work out? What if I’m left a single mum of 3. What if I’ve got so used to living on my own, I can’t live with someone again. What if the way I’m feeling isnt hormoanes at all, and it’s the realisation of it all? I’m not very good being out of my comfort zone so moving is a massive thing for me. I’m a loner and I love living on my own! Please tell me all this is completely normal 😭😭 some days I’m
Excited and other’s I wish I never came off the pill 🙈

Oh Lily it's bloody horrible & confusing when you feel like this isn't it?! I think in all likelihood it is probably more hormonal than anything. Moving house & in with someone, even if you've been with them a while, is always a big upheaval though, that's without a pregnancy on top.

If it makes you feel less alone I've had similar points in my pregnancies (about different worries) & they've turned out to be me worrying over nothing.

How many weeks are you? For me I find I tend to the worries settle down at around 18/20 weeks although with a couple they have crept back again at the end.

Try & think about the positives of moving & enjoy planning decorating & putting your joint mark on a new house. Being pregnant is a great reason to get out of painting skirting boards

I’m 14weeks. I am planning the house and visualising what can go where etc and then I think is it the novelty of it making me happy, or the reality of it! Is this the life I want or is it the thought of it what I want.
I remember having doubts in my other two pregnancies and once I was in 2nd trimester and feeling better I was happy. But I have more at stake this time if it doesn’t work.
I’m praying it’s hormones lol

It’s okay! I’m in the same situation. I have two children already and now pregnant with my third with somebody I’ve been with since 2014... and as soon as I fell pregnant I couldn’t stand him! This baby was planned. In fact he’s still annoying me but it’s getting better.
I can’t stand the way he does anything at all, I really can’t. His smell, the way he eats food, the way he breathes... I honestly feel like I despise him a lot of the time.
I’m 25 weeks now and every so often I’m starting to get flashes back to how I felt before, and honestly until I started getting flashed I had totally forgotten how I felt about him... but it’s made me realise it’s hormones. I won’t let him sleep in the same bed as me right now and I’m constantly at him for something and slowly but surely beginning to realise I am being entirely hormonal and irrational. He’s being a total trooper about it, he’s doing everything he possibly can- I’m an absolute witch right now and can’t help it. I have some making up to do when I’m back to normal!

Hormones tend to do this to people, even REALLY planned babies... women freak out and think they’ve made a mistake. I’ve done it three times now!

For the record I don’t tell him any of this! But I can’t help the way it’s made me feel.
Don’t worry though you will have a wonderful little family, hormones are just to blame

Hahaha omg it’s as if you’re in my mind! That’s exactly how I feel! I’m being so horrible to him right now lol. I don’t think he relaises hormones can be to blame. He goes on how he’s all depressed cos we’re not very close right and that gets on my tits cos I think oh get a grip you try feeling like this!!! I’m dreading when we have to share a bed lol I can’t Stand sharing a bed with anyone.
I try and think back to certain times soon before I fell pregnant and we were getting on great so I think well i did want this and him etc

This is def my last baby! Lol. Thank you so much

Honestly as bad as he must feel having a witch bitching at him 24/7, it really isn’t as bad as being the witch and feeling like something is taking over your brain. It’s such an out of control feeling! Tell him you don’t feel like you’re in control of your brain right now and even though you are aware you’re being irrational you cannot physically help yourself so he’s going to have to put his big boy boots on and brace himself for the ride!

Don’t beat yourself up about it though, it won’t last forever... I’m just trying my best not to stab him in the throat whenever he eats in the same room as me .