Really struggling with this pregnancy...feeling overwhelmed

[Rochyella84]

I don't really know what I'm looking for, just want to get stuff off my chest.

I'm just over half way through my 2nd pregnancy. My first was a breeze, and this one just feels like one challenge after another.

I was sick for the whole first trimester, and it was tough with a toddler and work, though I know I don't have it as bad as some. I then started to get spotting on and off for weeks with no explanation which really worried me.

Then I got the flu...proper fever, sweats, in hospital on a drip, couldn't do anything for days flu.

A few days after that I got a sickness bug and had d&v for several days. Am sure all this sickness is being picked up from my toddler at nursery.

And now most recently I have had two really heavy bleeds - have been in and seen and there is no explanation for them but thankfully baby seems fine.

It just feels like I recover from one set back, feel good for a day or so then I get hit with the next. I am so lucky to have a really supportive DH who is amazing, but I just feel like the next few months are this huge mountain and i don't know how to climb it. I don't think I'm depressed - I am still able to work and enjoy myself but I just feel totally overwhelmed and don't know how to get over this hump.

It is hard when as soon as one complication or worry starts to recede, another one crops up. Just when you think you're out of the woods. I think you just need to get through it as best you can. I have had worrying symptoms and times repeatedly in this pregnancy so I do empathise, it would be lovely to have a peaceful time for a bit to just enjoy it.

If you start to feel worse talk to your midwife about mental health support, just because you can't be too careful at this time. What with being tired, busy, hormonal and recovering from the lingering malaise that can follow flu I think you sound like you are doing an amazing job.

I'm sorry you're having a tough time op!

Take some time out every week just for you. Run yourself a bubble bath with candles and music or take yourself out for a coffee somewhere nice. Look after you and give yourself time to put your needs before everyone else's.

A little tlc can help you keep your head above water at this difficult time!

I really hope things start looking up for you xxx

Thank you both so much. I think I do need to find the time to do something for me - its so hard with a toddler and work to manage it.

And I will consider speaking to the midwife if I am still feeling low soon, there is only so much I can take!