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Pregnancy

Talk about every stage of pregnancy, from early symptoms to preparing for birth.

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HELP! Interview for council job.. 6 weeks pregnant.

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Kayleighox · 02/02/2018 11:30

Hi newbie to mumsnet sorry long post
I applied for a care home job start of jan when myself and my partner found out that he had no sperm count. I fancied a change of job, we were beginning the process to see what fertility options were avaible for us as we were told it could be 1-2 yrs. We found out last week we are expecting I'm sure I'm 6 weeks which is a wee miracle! I have an appointment with the midwife on 9th Feb and my interview is on the 14th.
This new position is a great opportunity, I want to go to the interview and be upfront about being pregnant and discuss my plans for returning back to work. As it would be good to have an idea. Although I'm not sure when in the interview to tell them or how to go about it. The worst they can do is say no. Thanks for reading xx

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Lifeofpies · 02/02/2018 19:55

If you get the job then you can tell them, and they can do a risk assessment and make appropriate adjustments for you.

KatnissMellark · 02/02/2018 19:57

It is illegal to discriminate against pregnant women during recruitment. Pregnancy/maternity are protected characteristics hahahahahahahahaha.

I got utterly fucked over for being pregnant. The protection is there in theory, but difficult to claim if your employer is clever enough.

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Kayleighox · 02/02/2018 19:58

I am not going to say anything and leave it out. I will update on the post if I get the job or not and be hopeful thanks guys xx

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Oysterbabe · 02/02/2018 20:00

Of course it's illegal but that makes sod all difference as it's hard to prove. I know someone who was looking for an assistant and told me he'd immediately discounted any women under 45 because he didn't want them going off on maternity leave.

Lifeofpies · 02/02/2018 20:00

You’re right, Katniss, and I’m really sorry you got shafted. If you’re job hunting then that’s why it’s even more important to wait until you have a signed contract (and even then some shitty employers will still try to get rid)

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Kayleighox · 02/02/2018 20:01

Tbh I think it was when she she told the employer and how many weeks she was they worked it out

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Justoneme · 02/02/2018 20:01

Congratulations on your news fantastic news!

Sadly I believe you will be discriminated against....

overduemamma · 02/02/2018 20:05

You don't legally have to let anyone know until you are 25 weeks pregnant. It would be really bad of them to sack you when they find out x

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Kayleighox · 02/02/2018 20:08

I'm not sure I think I have actually been asked that.. don't quote me I can't really remember I know I've had something like do you intend to have a family in the near future or along those lines

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KadabrasSpoon · 02/02/2018 20:15

If they are asking that sort of question and sacking women for being pregnant why would you want to work for them? Best off avoiding I think.
I used to be a union rep and I've never seen anything as blatantly stupid as writing a letter saying sacked for not telling about a pregnancy. That'd be a very clear cut case of discrimination as they've posted proof!

StealthPolarBear · 02/02/2018 20:17

Don't worry by the time all the recruitment forms are stamped and your pre employment checks are complete your baby will be at school :o

couldnteatawholeone · 02/02/2018 20:22

I was in a similar position - dream job interview in early pregnancy. I chose to withdraw and emailed them to explain and stated I was really upset to pass the opportunity up and could they let me know of any other positions that come up for me to re-apply to.
Then i felt upset and thought I did a stupid thing.
Then the pregnancy made me as sick as a dog and it's only getting worse. At 24 weeks I have had enough of life let alone work. I am so glad I stuck to my current job that I know inside out and is not a challenge to adapt to. I don't like my job but honestly, I would not have coped learning a new role and adapting on top of what im going through right now. Plus my employers have been fantastic with me and I am so grateful for what they are doing for me.
So, I am just sharing my story. Hopefully you will have a nice easy pregnancy and breeze through it.
But if anything happens or you end up like me - getting royally shafted by the pregnancy fairy hitting me with most conceivable nasty side effects listed in all the useless twaddle pregnancy books leaving you barely able to function, you may regret jumping ships.
Then again, you may not. Your decision. Just something to consider.

mrssmith1415 · 02/02/2018 20:35

I think if someone has been sacked for not telling them she was pregnant i would worry about their attitudes in general to pregnant women. It’s descrimination but as you probably know working in care a lot of homes make their own rules up, regardless of if they are council/private/nhs. I worked at a similar sounding home during my first pregnancy (children’s LD/social care) and I was not protected at all. The advice I was given was if any challenging behaviour occurred I was to shut myself in the store cupboard and lock the door. And I was told I was being unreasonable for asking not to sit in between the two most physically aggressive young people in the minibus when we went on trips out.
If you’re happy enough in your current job I’d seriously consider sticking with it, staff turnover is always high so this new job may still be available in 18 months time xx

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