Please help...so fed up 😭

[Namechangeuser]

I really need some words of support today, it's not going well :(

I am 32 weeks pregnant with ds, DD is only 11 months old.

I am feeling so tired and over whelmed and it's really bringing me down. We try to get out every day, but everything is becoming an effort and a struggle.

I have pelvic pain so walking is slow and painful, and to top it off I now have a thrombosed pile (sorry tmi) which is so painful and I can't sleep because of it.

DD is and always has been such an active baby and she is running me ragged. She learnt to walk this week so is go go go.

Please tell me it's going to get better. I don't have any help during the day at all, only dh when he is home from work.

I am beyond exhausted.

Hi Namechangeuser

I am also 32 weeks with a 4 year old (pre-schooler) who is extremely active/energetic.
Not many words of advice, just wanted you to know that I can relate to the getting out as being a bit of a struggle - my saving grace is that dd attends pre-school in the morning, it is a struggle getting her there but at least they can wear her out a bit. Afternoons will do very little, read stories, ipad, I have even started bathing her in the afternoons as she enjoys water play and it kills a bit of time before dh gets home. Never liked the prospect of too much screen time but unfortunately have been relying on it over recent weeks because everything has become a struggle - dd has no fear and would get into allsorts if I took her out on my own, so I have had to cut my losses. I tell myself this is just a temporary thing. It's lovely but a bit unfortunate timing that your dd has just started walking because it means that she will want to get into everything; I'm not sure what her concentration span is regarding screens etc.
it's tough going and I feel like I'm scraping by - I have no extended family etc. to help out, hang on in there and try to just go with the flow - it took me a while to accept my new situation as I am usually quite an active person and used to being active with my dd. This too will pass x

That sounds super tough. I know you said you don't have any help but is there anyone you could ask- maybe to come and take your 11mth old to the park or similar. People are often happy to help but they don't know you'd like it if you don't ask.

Would soft play with a baby section be an option. You could hopefully sit for an hour while she plays?

Could DH take a couple of days off, just to give you a mini break?

Plan a CBeebies afternoon, blankets on the floor and an easy lunch never hurt anyone

It will def get better. You're at a really intense period bit it will get easier.

I feel your pain. I have less than 13 months between my 4 and 5 year old and it was hard. But not too bad as had another one when they were 1 and 2. I felt amazingly better as soon as DD was born and it was great - I managed better with a 13 month old and a new born than I did when I was heavily pregnant

Thank you for your kind words ladies, being pregnant a second time round with such a young baby is much harder than I imagined.

Unfortunately I don't have any family less than a couple of hours away, so during the week it's only me and DD and has been this way since she was born. Usually I cope fine with it but I think being more heavily pregnant the exhaustion is just taking its toll.

It's nice to hear that looking after a 13 month old and a newborn felt easier than looking after a 12 month old whilst heavily pregnant. This gives me hope that I might actually be able to survive 2 under 2!