6 weeks pregnant but worried

[Barbie0316]

I have a daughter who is two years old now and four months ago me and my partner decided we wanted to try for another one so i had the implant taken out sept 2017 and fell pregnant November but 4 days after finding out I started to bleed heavily resulting in a MC which i was devastated about asive never experienced this before. I am now almost 6 weeks pregnant now and I'm worried the same will happen again. Im literally wishing the weeks away until my first Midwife appointment in 4 weeks just to be reassured everything is ok. I keep beating myself up about the last MC because after I found out i still as they tell you to do carry on with your normal daily life. I stupidly went to the gym squatting with heavy-ish weights and a day after was cleaning my car doing alot of bending and awkward positions. I feel this may have resulted in the mc. Now I'm doing literally nothing more than house work as im so petrified. Anyone else had a similar experience? X

I've had multiple miscarriages so tend to be quite anxious as well. I stopped believing that stress or excercise would be really detrimental for a pregnancy when a gyneacologist pointed out that women in war torn countries are very stressed, not well fed and walk for a long time carrying their children or elders while pregnant and still have healthy babies. I do try to liva a healthy life but don't stress about every decision anymore.

Wow thats so true I never thought of it like that thanks for replying. Sorry that you have also suffered from mc's it's really not easy to get over. But I suppose if its meant to be it will if not it won't. I went to see my doctor today as I'm suffering with really bad nausea and I'm losing weight slowly. hopefully I'll be back to eating normally again and I'll stop worrying so much about everything

Pregnancy is such a worrying time. I've just had my daughter but spent the whole nine months worrying. I also suffered two pregnancy losses around 8 weeks. Try to take each day as it comes and keep yourself occupied to focus on other things, it really helped me being at work. I hope it all works out for you.

It's not likely that anything you did caused it. Early miscarriages are generally just incompatible with life and that's out of your hands. Don't beat yourself up about it. I'm sure this one will be fine.

Exercise and washing the car definitely, definitively did not cause your miscarriage. The vast majority of women globally have always had to work through their pregnancies, often hard physical labour - how would the human race ever have survived if women had to sit on their arses for nine months to be pregnant? Reproduction is genetically very tricky and a lot of our eggs are already damaged - unfortunately the genetic bits often just go wrong and produce an embryo that's not capable of developing into a baby.

Good luck for this pregnancy.

Hi @Barbie0316 I'm sorry to hear about your miscarriage and your anxiety now you're pregnant again. I've just had MMC with my first pregnancy at 9 weeks. It's absolutely heartbreaking and I'm not surprised you're worried now you're pregnant again. My nurse told me the only thing I should be reading is the Miscarriage Association's website and on that it says it is massively unlikely that we miscarried because of anything we did; more than likely it was to do with genetics like the other ladies said. Easier said than done, but just try and stay busy, do lots of lovely things with your family and it'll be your midwife appointment before you know it. I was seeing a counsellor about anxiety before all this happens, and if you feel you're really struggling then I'd definitely recommend trying to see someone. Take care of yourself x

I'm really sorry for your loss before. Pregnancy afterwards is always difficult. Try and take it one day at a time and focus on the fact that most pregnancies result in a baby - although it doesn't feel like that when you've miscarried.
Also keeping active and busy is good for you. There is no way that going to the gym or cleaning a car caused the miscarriage. I always think it's hard to do but try to carry on as normal. Otherwise you end up just feeding the anxiety by believing in it if that makes sense? One day at a time. Keep as busy as you can.

Thank you so much ladies for all your messages I appreciate them so much and feel much better now within myself and about this pregnancy I will just try to keep busy and not worry so much and beat myself up. Im so relieved to know that I didn't do anything to cause it that really puts my mind at ease. Thank you again ladies take care! 🤗 x