9 month old, pregnant with twins and hyperemesis

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Hi everyone

Not sure where else to turn. I really hope I don’t sound ungrateful at all as I have previously struggled with fertility but currently feeling very overwhelmed.

I have a 9 month old little boy, we decided to try for another baby as we had years of infertility and thought it could take years again to get lucky. I got pregnant the first month of trying. I started suffering terribly with morning sickness. Worse than my first pregnancy.

I’ve been admitted to hospital and am being treated for hyperemesis. Whilst in hospital they requested a scan, which I had yesterday. My husband was at home looking after our little girl and couldn’t come. It turns out I’m pregnant with twins! I just do not know what to do with myself. I feel so so unwell, but have now been discharged as my medication is better under control for hyperemesis. I am absolutely terrified of having 2 more babies, I will have 3 under 16 months, and that’s if they’re born term, I’m terrified they'll Be both early and need lots of extra support and my little boy will miss out on attention. I probably sound crazy, I just feel all over the place and my head keeps jumping everywhere worrying about everything.

Does anyone have any experience or advice for a terrified mum?

Hi OP. Can I suggest you post in the twins and multiples forum? It's under Parenting.

There are lots of twin mums in there with experience who can provide some wisdom.

I'm pregnant with twins atm and use the forum for questions on bathing two, pushchairs etc.

As a first time mum I don't have loads of advice for you, but there are mums over there with toddlers and twin babies/bumps.

They manage and I know you will too xx

Just came on here to say, although this sort of news is a massive shock, you will have time to get a plan into place, you will be able to cope, and there is a lot of help and advice out there. This next couple of years will be hard work but massive congratulations and best of luck

You don't sound crazy at all, I'm not surprised you're feeling overwhelmed! Hyperemesis is awful in itself and leaves you feeling so vulnerable with how unwell you are. I hope you have some good meds now, what have they put you on? There is a hyperemesis support thread on here which is really great and you can get lots of support and advice on there - I also really recommend pregnancy sickness support, they have a really helpful website and a helpline.

On top of that you've had some huge news that is going to take a lot of adjusting to, and however you feel about that is really ok and normal - you don't sound ungrateful at all. I'm afraid I can't offer much in the way of advice about coping with a multiple pregnancy plus a little one - I'm 37 weeks with my first so no experience! But I think you'll need some time to get your head around it all and just don't beat yourself up about it if your feeling less than ecstatic about the news at the moment - it doesn't make you ungrateful to be pregnant. I've absolutely hated most of pregnancy due to hyperemesis, it really gives your mental health a bashing. Try to be kind to yourself, it's ok to be terrified. Can you talk to your DH about how you're feeling?