Excuses to cover morning sickness!

[Spock25]

I’m 7 weeks pregnant with my second child and the nausea and sickness this time is dreadful. It’s constant and unrelenting. I’ve barely moved from the bed or the sofa, getting my toddler to preschool has been an absolute nightmare. Although, she’s been as good as gold at home and is doing lots of playing by herself which has been a godsend.

But what I really wanted to ask, is how have you made excuses in the first few dreadful weeks to cover up the fact you’re pregnant? Luckily I’m not working, but friends etc want to meet up, I’ve got a few regulars that I’d usually meet up with once a week or fortnight and I’ve just kept saying I’m under the weather which they have accepted but now they’re probing for more. It’s lovely that they’re concerned. But I hate lying and I don’t want to make up some fake illness just to appease their curiosity. So any tips?

Tell them the truth?? They might even bring you around a meal or two?

If you don't want to tell then just keep going with Illnesses. It's the season for so many bugs you can just go with flu, then stomach bug, then child catches it, etc etc.

But why don't you tell someone close so you have some suppprt if you need it? I told my friend closest to me at work early on as we were going on a work trip to France and o needed someone as back up with all that wine/forbidden cheese around!

Thanks guys. You’re going to think I’m a fruitcake but I guess I’m just incredibly superstitious and my husband especially doesn’t want to tell anyone before 12 weeks. I know this is super weird and just a coincidence but we have had a number of friends tell us that they’re pregnant before the 12 week mark and 90% have gone on to miscarry. No exaggeration, it’s honestly so weird! I feel like we’re a curse! Obviously telling people doesn’t lead to miscarriage but it’s just been built up as this thing between us. I guess I’ll go with the suggestion that I/we keep getting sick and keep it vague. Whenever a friend asks me a specific question about what I’m feeling or the symptoms I’m just like, aggh whyyyyyy! Haha 🙈

I kept it secret until twelve weeks too. Travel sickness was a useful excuse for me if I'd gone somewhere by car first.

Totally understand that you might want to keep it a secret. Why not say you have an inner ear issue that's causing you to feel nauseous? Have a google on it and become the expert and say it's what's causing you to feel ill. But then if you can still meet up with your mates once in a while- it's good to have a bit of company if you can and it might distract you/make you feel better? Did you have this with your first?

I think I’ve used the excuse that I had a serious uti and was on antibiotics (you could say they make you feel unwell) but the magic is once you say uti people generally just leave it at that and don’t want anymore details!!!

I couldn't keep it secret as I really needed the help. I told my parents and one close friend and tbh it was a God send having people to help out. Other people I just said I had a stomach bug and then my dd had it etc luckily it was in winter so lots of stuff going round makes it more believable.

You don't always have to say you're ill, invent some other appointments e.g. having to wait in for a parcel/the gas man

You could just say you're on a new contraceptive and it doesn't seem to be agreeing with you, giving you bad headaches or something and say the docs said that it should settle down in a few weeks but if not you'll have to try something else?

Hi Spock25 I'm totally with you! Im currently 6wks4days pregnant and my partner is exactly the same he doesn't want anyone to know yet that we are expecting I think due to me mis carrying back in November I think he's scared it will happen again.
Yeh i do feel that its a curse sometimes and that not everyone you tell may be happy for you there will always be people jealous and envious that you are pregnant and may think horrible things. My sister is also expecting she is 28wks now with her 3rd i have a 2yr old daughter so this is my second. But when i had a MC it was not long after I found out she was expecting which broke my heart as i had just lost mine. So ive learnt to be grateful but humble at the same time. I'm hoping everything will go well this time around. Good luck for your pregnancy also and congratulations