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Feeling easily overwhelmed/catastrophizing/anxious/overly sensitive...

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BoilYerHeid · 29/01/2018 16:18

Just wondered if anyone was in the same boat. I have found myself very down this pregnancy (27w with second DC, I have a toddler). I already avoid the news and anything a bit dark and sinister (ie have not been watching Black Mirror!!) as bit of self-protection but I'm finding just every day situations a bit much.

Not really sure how to explain it, just find myself overwhelmed with negative thoughts and worries about every single thing. A few examples:

If I start to think about DC's future, Trump, Brexit, North Korea, everything spirals out of control into 'the whole world is awful and my DCs and I will soon be living in a post-apocolyptic nuclear wasteland' Confused

If anyone says anything about my toddler I immediately take offence.
'Oh he's full of beans today'
Me: 'piss off, being a parent is hard work, just because he's a bit intense doesn't mean he's not wonderful, why don't you F off back to your perfect children' Confused
Obviously I don't say that but I think it and then start to think that I am obviously a terrible shitty parent. I feel like whenever anyone looks at my bump they are thinking I'm far too inadequate a parent to have a second and maybe I should concentrate on not screwing up the first one.

The absolute worst thing is my work. I've always felt a bit lacking in confidence but it's becoming crippling now to the extent that I am not functioning that effectively and have started to think I shouldn't go back after mat leave...

Sorry, this is really just a self-indulgent post but I'm just not my usual cheery glass-half-full-self and my emotions are all over the shop. My thoughts seem impossible to control and just lead me to feel sad and anxious a lot of the time. Is this a pregnancy thing? I really don't remember it from first time!

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ClareB83 · 29/01/2018 16:20

Speak to your midwife. Might be ante natal depression.

Naomilj · 30/01/2018 10:58

Hi OP. I’ve felt like this sometimes during this pregnancy (current 37 weeks and have a toddler too) especially during the first and second trimester. Still have bad days but mainly due to feeling physically uncomfortable and exhausted.

I did have antenatal depression last time (on reflection) followed by post natal depression, so this time I did mention it to my midwife in case I feel low too often again, however overall I’ve been fine.
How you are feeling is definitely normal occasionally. Second pregnancies can be tough and it’s common to think ‘why did we think we could manage with another?!’ As well as being irritated at others and the general lack of external excitement compared to your first.
It may help to monitor your mood (say give your self a rating out of 10) daily. If you are clearly having more continuous bad days it might be worth speaking to GP/Midwife about available talking therapies/support.

Hope you feel better soon.

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