Almost 6 weeks and panicking

[Georgina125]

Hello there. My husband and I have been TTC for months and we were delighted when I tested positive last week. But my happiness was short-lived as I have been worrying ever since.

I've had back pain for a few weeks so was worrying what it might mean. Ever twinge or ache/pain has me rushing to the toilet to check for blood. Then, yesterday evening, a wave of nausea hit me and hasn't let up since. I have been dry retching for hours so finally called in sick. My work are pretty tough on sickness so I have sent my boss a message to tell her I am pregnant- this way it will be recorded differently. Also I feel that if my morning sickness is going to continue this way, I will need support from her.

Of course now, I am worried I have jinxed the pregnancy by telling someone.

Not sure what advice I am after. Just hoping to feel less panicky and nauseous at some point..

To explain my anxiety a bit. Both my Mum and Nan had miscarriages with their first babies (my Mum lost hers at 16 weeks) so I am worried it will be the same for me.

Hi Georgina, first of all - congratulations! I didn't realise I was pregnant for a while but around what I think would have been the 6 week mark I was really achey. I was sat wrapping Christmas presents on the floor one evening and when I went to stand up I couldn't straighten up and everything was just agony! So I think the aches and pains are quite normal. Needless to say the sickness/nausea is also extremely normal.

I think it's such a hard phase of the pregnancy as you've no idea what is going on. I know I have struggled immensely since finding out I was pregnant - until you see babba on a screen and know all is well, I don't think it's easy to stop worrying.

I am sure you haven't jinxed anything by telling your boss. A lot of women need to tell their boss in the early days due to feeling so crappy and potentially needing time off etc. You've done the right thing :)

Thank you for your kind reply itallhappensforareason. I am trying to think positive and can't help but smile at the thought of holding my baby.

Congratulations!! The anxiety never really goes (even when the baby is born!) but do try and take each day as it comes. The pains you describe are quite normal.

By telling your boss you don't have to worry about taking time off if you need it. And if the worst case scenario happens, I've found it's helpful to have ppl know for support.

Thank you Fanofpotato. I'm feeling a bit better after having some breadsticks so I'm going to try and sleep.

I’m 9 weeks with my first at the moment so I can relate!
I felt absolutely exhausted at 5wks and couldn’t get to the kitchen, let alone work. I had to tell my manager I was pregnant much earlier than I had planned. But now I know I don’t have to worry about sickness policy etc.
From 6wks I also had nausea constantly and just wanted to cry. I had a sharp pain in my right side and convinced myself I was having an eptopic pregnancy (I wasn’t!). It’s easy to let your mind go to the worst scenario.
The aches and pains you’ve described are pretty normal. And the sickness is actually a sign that things are progressing as they should.

The best advice I can give is to take each day at a time. Some days you’ll feel like you have every pregnancy symptom going, and others you could almost forget you were pregnant. Every day that you’re pregnant the risk of miscarriage drops so try to be positive. It’s a bit of a waiting game at this stage unfortunately.
I went to a private clinic on the weekend to have an early scan and it really put my mind at rest. Might be worth considering if it will ease your mind.
I think we’re all anxious crazy ladies at this point and probably will be until our kids turn 35 at least!

Flamingo84- I certainly feel crazy at this point! I blame Google, there are so many sad stories out there.

Did the nausea ease at all or have you got used to it? I have considered an early scan but my husband isn't keen.

Please don't google.

Remember your womb is changing shape dramatically! You will get period like cramps, this isn't a MC this is your body changing.

It is scary, I was scared, but I'm now a DM. I wish I'd not worried so much and enjoyed my pregnancy.

You can book private reassurance scans at a cost if you're in England.

Thanks everyone for your support. I am still feeling very nauseous and am now getting very panicky. I can't imagine feeling this way for weeks/months. I might take a trip to the GP tomorrow. See if there is anything that can be done, otherwise I can't go to work.

The nausea was constant for weeks. I’ve been off work for 3 weeks as it was so bad (I also have another medical condition which is flaring up to make it worse!).

Mine eases slightly with more sleep and eating something every 2 hours. I’ve been wearing seasick bands on my wrists and found they helped. Ginger did nothing for me so I’ve given up on it! I have to say got a lot better yesterday out of the blue. Today I still feel off but nowhere near as bad.

I absolutely sobbed last week because I couldn’t cope with the thought of months of morning sickness. I felt so I’ll and alone. I hate being off sick and felt I was letting work down. My male GP even had the gall to tell me to just get used to it as it’d be worse when the baby arrived!
Thankfully I saw a female GP who understood immediately and was very helpful.

Flamingo84- my male GP called back and told me that he preferred not to prescribe any anti-emetics as there is no evidence they are safe. He suggested that I might just have a bug. He wants me to come in tomorrow for an examination anyway.

I have my Sea bands on but, so far, no joy. Chewing gum hasn't helped either. I don't know what to do with myself 😭. I sound so pathetic, I know.

I’m 6 weeks just now & the nausea is just grim.
I’ve found pottering about us good & if I sit down it hits me a bit more.
There’s a lot going on just now try not to worry about aches, your body is doing so much.

Also anxiety will make you feel more sick,
It’s natural to worry & checking in the loo constantly, well I do!

Keep telling myself what’s going to happen will happen no amount of worry can charge it,

Positive thoughts & calm thoughts

You’re not alone

I’ve been sucking minty tic tacs & found having a piece of fruit good, apples & pears. Probably the sugar & they’re refreshing !

The nausea is truly grim but it will get easier to deal with. You get used to it and you also discover what coping mechanisms work for you. I had to eat pretty much every hour - just half a dry cracker worked. I also had to stay hydrated - if I wasn't sipping water all the time I would feel sick. Ginger works. It was miserable and I hated every minute of it but it does pass.

Anti-emetics don't really help nausea, they just help if you're actually throwing up constantly. Personally I was so relieved when I threw up as it meant I didn't feel sick for half an hour or so!

Hang on in there - it really does get easier!

I'm struggling with the nausea at the moment too. I think I'm about 10 weeks (scan on Thursday to confirm) so I'm hoping I'm nearing the end of this horrible-ness!! I haven't physically been sick at all which I suppose I should be thankful for, but the sicky feeling is just awful. I thought it was getting a bit better for a few days but then it hit me again. I've been working from home yesterday and today because the thought of sitting in an office without easy access to the loo makes me incredibly uncomfortable - also really lovely being able to sit in my pjs and not worry about having to get ready!!!

I've found that a can of Coke (full fat) seems to help. Also bought some ginger biscuits yesterday which did seem to help, will have some more today and see. Shame I don't like ginger though!

Chances are the nausea will go away. It's horrible is t it. I had normal nausea with three of my dc and terrible hideous ghastly nausea with the last one. 🤢. What was funny was that it suddenly stopped at about 16 weeks. It wasn't a gradual lessening, it was an abrupt stop.

6 weeks is still very early days so I would just try and battle through the sickness.

Hope all goes well and try not to worry too much.

I remember feeling like this with DD1 for the first trimester, it was an awful three months full of anxiety and it took forever and ever. Time will pass though and all will be okay. The only reassurance I can offer is that the more achy and nauseous you feel- the better for the pregnancy as it means the hormones are going crazy. Good luck!

Thanks everyone for the support. The nausea has eased off quite a lot and no vomiting for over 24 hours. I am wondering if I had a combination of anxiety, a virus and morning sickness, not just morning sickness alone. I am having one more day off work to catch up on sleep and rehydrate (head feels odd still).

I know it may return any day but I am happy for now.

Quick update- it returned last night. Think it doesn't like apples....

Doctor says that he can sign me off if I am not well enough to go to work on Monday.

@Georgina125 See how you feel over the weekend. If you need more time, take it. It’s hard work growing a human being! Hope you feel better soon.

Everything has settled down a bit since Thursday lunchtime. Not sure if it is because I have worked out a diet which doesn't trigger the morning sickness or whether I am having a brief respite before it returns but I am enjoying it while it lasts.

Hi everyone.
So where do I begin. Well, I have a 18 year old and a 13 year. I’m 35 and my husband is 43. So the thought never crossed our minds about having more kids seeing as we haven’t used contraception in 13 years. My period is regular but sometimes she liked to scare me every couple of months by turning up late. So this month April/2025 I was late and shrugged it off. A week past and still nothing but I had that “feeling” that in minute now. Me and my 13 y/o went away for a weekend to the beach. It was a treat to him, obviously I took pads and wore them everyday. Well, Monday the 28th, we came home and joked to my husband that I still hadn’t come on lol. Tuesday came round. Still nothing. I nipped to the shop and bought a rapid result clearblue, you know the one with cross , all the time thinking 1. How expensive the test was. 2. That I’m just being silly. So I get home and rush to the bathroom. I peed in cup. Dipped the test. Looked at the box for a split second. There it was ➕. What! I’m crying. I’m shaking. I run to my husband’s and throw the test at him all while I’m crying my eyes out. Yeah so since then I’ve taken about 10 more just to be certain. All very positive. But I’m scared and anxious. Every twinge. The feeling that I’ve leaked and rushing to wipe to see blood when there’s nothing there. How can I enjoy this when it doesn’t feel real. I’m almost 6 weeks according to the calculations. No morning sickness as of yet and my first midwife appointment isn’t until the 27 of may. I’ve bought my own folic acid. Am I going to be ok? So scared so nervous so anxious and so hungry