DH won't tell family about pregnancy

[Hazymaizy]

I've name changed as I'm on quite a few threads at the moment and don't want to be identified.
I'm 14 weeks pregnant. Had my scan the other day which surprised me as I was further on than I thought.
Initially I wanted to tell family early on but decided to wait until scan as I have 2 DCs and I didn't want them to find out until after that so so far I have told one close friend & my boss.
Because of my work I had to let them know early on as there are some precautions that must be taken. Because of this it is becoming increasingly difficult not to tell other colleagues, which I would be happy to do but not before family know.
DH though is dragging his feet and adamant he doesn't want them to know yet. When I ask them why he says he doesn't know. When I ask him when, he just shrugs. It is so frustrating!
I was all up for just telling the in-laws today as we're over for lunch but his SIL is having fertility issues so I want to be sensitive about it. My parents have visitors this weekend too so I don't really want to go & announce it.
I'm tempted to just visit them after work this week even though it's going to upset DH as it's driving me mad not being able to tell friends and colleagues. The longer we go without telling family they will be upset we've hidden it.
Not sure what's going on in DHs mind as he refuses to talk about it. He's not normally like this about anything either. I'm just finding it so frustrating!

Was the baby planned? Is he trying to get his head round it? Just shrugging at you is unhelpful and suggests there is a reason he doesn’t want to do tell you.

Say unless there is a reason you're telling them this weekend.

Or get "caught" asking for decaf/non alcoholic.

I’d tell the sister by text or email. There are lots of threads on the infertility board about the best way for those of us that struggle to conceive to find out about pregnancies. That’s always the one that comes out on top.

Yes, baby was planned.
His parents, although we both get on with them very well, can often be quite judgemental. I wonder of that's something to do with it. They often have very strong opinions on things we do but he usually just shrugs it off.
Or maybe he doesn't want any fuss and quite likes it just to be between us for now. I explained though that I feel I need to be able to talk about it. He can kind of ignore it bit really but I'm gradually getting a little bump and can't/don't want to hide it for long.

his SIL is having fertility issues

So is that his brother and sister in law?

Could it be this that's the reason he doesn't want to announce you're having another child when they are having trouble?

I do think though that you both need to be on the same page with the pregnancy so it may be better to wait till you understand why he wants to wait to announce.

Sorry, that is his sister.
Yes we are conscious of that hence me not saying anything today as we didn't know she was going to be there. I want to speak to MIL to get an idea of how to do it sensitively. I have to say though that's come from me more than him.
I agree we're not 'on the same page' but not sure how we will get there when he refuses to talk about it.

Name change fail? I’ve reported it for mnhq to change it for you.