Alone and pregnant

[Cika]

Hello everyone, my name is Cika amd i am new in this community. I am an Italia. Lady who lives and work in London from 4 years. Three years ago i met this beautiful man and i fell in love.with him
We had beautiful moments. Soon he came stable in my house. Since his arrival i started to have problems with my friend and flatmate. None of my friend liked him
Soon i was isolated from everybody. Soon i found myself pregnant and i found out he was waiting a baby for another woman. His official partner. Their baby was born and we was still together. Whenni told him i was pregnant he started to tell me he was horrible and he wanted to die. He tried to manipulate myself encouraging me to have an abortion. I couldn't do that , i started feel him moving inside me and i ran from the abortjon clinic. From that moment he stopped to come.and visit me. It' s about two mounths he is not around anymore. He still saying me i am coming today but he never arrives. I am angry, depressed , i got a lot to say and i am repressed. I am also stressed because from the 10th of march i should leave this house and for my economical condition i can't rent a studio or a flat. I am just happy for this baby and i cant wait to meet him.

Gosh that is so hard for you OP.

I think if I was you I would give shelter a ring to find out what you can do about your housing situation first.

tel:08088004444

I'd probably also talk to your local council housing department.

I'd also check what benefits your entitled to so you can budget for baby.

That's assuming you want to stay in London. If you have family in Italy you could go home to get their support and help with the baby. If you do that you'll probably want to do it soon to get healthcare sorted for the birth.

If you're staying here you need to get in touch with your local midwife team. You can often refer yourself online.

How far along are you?

Sorry for the situation your in. Do you have any family in Italy that can help you? I know you've built a life for yourself in London but with a newborn and nowhere to live I would strongly suggest you go home to Italy where you'll have some emotional and practical support. You can always come back to London when your on your feet. It's obvious you can't rely on the baby's father

Unfortunately i am alone here amd there. I don' t have kind of support and this is the reason why i decided to come.here. Here i have a job and i pay taxes from 4 years now. I pay also.my rent with no help
I have tp leave this house because the contract is expiring and my flatmate doesnt want to make another one because i am pregnant. I am now on 20 weeks and 2 days and my due date is the 8th of June. I have to leave here the 10th of march

So sorry I hear you're in this situation but please do not worry. Contact the citizens advice bureau who will be able to tell you your options for housing. Also contact your local council as once you have the baby they have to find you housing which will likely be emergency accommodation at first.
Good luck and take care of yourself and the baby

I'm so sorry to hear you're all alone. It seems like you still have hopes for this man, but for your own sanity, let him go. He is with someone else and looks like he won't be leaving her anytime soon.

Some good advice on here. I would start looking into your options asap. As soon as you have your accommodation sorted out, start buying the baby the necessities. I think the government give a small amount to people under certain circumstances. Check in gov.uk, you may be eligible.

Let us know how to get in. X

Hi OP, your circumstances are far from ideal but now is the time to think pragmatically and make sure you’ve got everything as sorted as possible for when Baby arrives.
I think it’s fair to say that the baby’s dad will not be in the picture so you need to plan for yourself as the sole bread winner.
You say you’re working: make sure you find out about your employer’s maternity leave options and wether they have an enhanced package?
No support network either in UK or Italy: if I were you I’d check which country offers the best support for single mums and take that Ito account when making a decision.
I wouldn’t know what to suggest as temporary accommodation but some people gave good ideas, so try to explore them.
Hopefully you can find temporary accommodation, enjoy your maternity leave and little by little start to figure out what the best for you and your baby is.
All the best!! xxx