please someone tell me this is just hormones!!! i hope so

[jenjingles]

hi all just wanted to get this off my chest as its really bothering and upsetting me. I'm 28wks pg with my third when iwas pg with ds1 and dd1 i felt really close and safe and romantic with my husband, but this time with new husband i don't feel like that at all and he dose not show me any more affection this is really worrying me is our relationship terribly doomed!! or is it just me being silly, please help its cracking me up!¬!

Just relax. Of course you're not feeling romantic you are 28 weeks pregnant with two kids already! Of course he's not feeling romantic you're 28 weeks pregnant. He's probably afraid and doesn't know what to do (Mine is the same way, he's afraid to come near me for fear of hurting the baby)

Just tell him how you are feeling. Men don't understand that women are extra sensitive during pregnancy, and that it takes more effort on their part for you to feel it.

DH made me cry on Tuesday & I'm hard as nails normally, I don't feel he's being as supportive this time round & actually berated me for eating rubbishy food as I wasn't doing the baby any good by not eating any fruit & little veg. He has absolutely no idea how nausea etc affects you & didn't realise how insensitive he was being. I was already crap enough about not eating fruit & he hit a really raw nerve but we talked it out & he apologised & things have beena bit better, till the next hormonal surge probably when I'll just hit him instead . Try explaining how you feel, not mentioning previous pg's or hubby & asking for a bit more support & understanding. It's a really hard time but bottling it up just makes it worse.

thankyou!! ihaven't mentioned the PAST!! to him at all as i know it'd really hurt his feelings, but because he had 3 kids with the ex i sometimes feel that he thinks oh this is just number 4 get on with it, i know i'm probobly being over sensitive, but its really nice to know i'm not the only one. xx

Every pregnancy deserves to be treated as a first pregnancy! After all, we still get the same hormone problems, the same aches, pains and anxieties!