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Pregnant with coil and so confused

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Kdn12 · 20/01/2018 15:52

Hi
I am nearly 8 weeks pregnant. I found out I was pregnant a couple of weeks ago which came as a huge shock as have a Jaydess Coil in place. I was bleeding on and off heavily so assumed the decision had been taken out of my hands but a scan revealed that not only was the coil in place, but the baby was too. I have a medical abortion booked for this Wednesday but I am beginning to have doubts.
The dad is aware and fully supportive. We have known each other for two years and both have 2 children each from previous relationships. Me and him started while he was married (I know, awful) and he left his wife only 4 weeks ago so it’s been a very difficult time and still a lot of uncertainty for the future as he has left her twice before and gone back.
All the negatives to this baby outway the positives but at the same time the negatives are all about the affect it would have on other people.
He has admitted to me yesterday that he would be lying if keeping the baby hadn’t crossed his mind and that while it’s sad it isn’t the right time for us.
I am still bleeding daily and the coil is still there. But baby is hanging on Still regardless of the crazy odds.
I am so confused now am just don’t know what to think or do. Any advice or experiences would help

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sirlee66 · 20/01/2018 16:05

Omg! How has this happened!? I thought the coil was practically full proof!!? How long have you had it in for and is there a chance is it was fitted incorrectly or has somehow dislodged itself?!

If I was in your situation, this is what I would do... Okay so you and your boyfriend need to sit down and weigh up the pros and cons and decide if you can physically, mentally, financially have this baby and actualy do you want to bring in the little life into the world or not?

Your little one seems to have defied all odds so it's almost like he's supposed to be there! But these are things what you need to weigh up sooner rather than later.

Best of luck

DwangelaForever · 20/01/2018 16:21

The fact that the baby has defied all odds and is hanging in there would make me personally sway towards keeping it!

If the negatives mainly affect other people and the positives affect you and the babies Daddy, I say go for it. Other people can get over it!

Although I know it's your choice so good luck with whatever you decide 💖

ObiJuanKenobi · 20/01/2018 16:32

You may wish to have this moved to pregnancy choices OP, up-to you of course but you may get more support over there from others who have had similar hard decisions to make.
Good luck either way!

Kdn12 · 20/01/2018 17:44

My coil was fitted 2 years ago and the consultant that scanned me said it’s all fine and in the right place. Supposedly there is a 0.05% of pregnancy with a coil ! Wish I had as much luck with the lottery odds.
Thank you for the advice and thoughts so far 💕

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