Annoyed with myself

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Tested early on Tuesday and got a very clear positive. I'm not good with secrets so wanted to tell my parents immediately. They didn't answer so I called my sister, who is 28 weeks with the family's first grandchild. Then I called my parents and then felt I couldn't leave my brother out. I was very clear it could be over in an instant and I'd want those around me to know if I was miscarrying anyway. However, I kind of regret not keeping it a secret between me and DH a little longer now... I was so surprised it was positive I was shaking and crying and needed to share. It's probably just what my anxiety is focusing on now, but I sense my mum can't get very excited for me and am worried people will think I'm hysterical... Did anyone else share their news early?

Hi! I shared with pretty much everyone I knew around 6 weeks.. basically a couple of weeks after finding out I was pregnant. My 8yr old DD overheard me and DH so I had to beat her and her mouth to it! I’m now 15 weeks and don’t regret telling people as everything has been fine. At least you’ve only told family so far. I literally told my neighbours and people I barely knew 😂

Good luck and happy and healthy 9 months to you xx

I've always told people early. People say " oh you shouldn't be telling people this early", with the implication that something can go wrong. But my reasoning is that if anything did go wrong then you would be telling people anyway and want support as they would know you weren't yourself.

Ah don't worry about it OP. If you're happy to tell people who you would want support from whatever happens, then that's all that matters really.

If it helps, I had a very late loss followed by fertility issues with the result that all sorts of people at work knew exactly whay was going on from the day I had my embryo put back! I personally liked it that way and am confident thar nobody thought I was hysterical.

Congratulations!

Thanks for the kind replies! I think I'm worried my parents will think I did it to try and upstage my sister... I was very very jealous of her for a while and did get rather hysterical about it at one point (not in front of her though!) However, our plan had always been to start trying at Christmas 2017. I suppose there isn't much to get excited about for others yet, it is still so early it could be over tomorrow, I haven't had any appointments yet and I can only recognise the symptoms because I got a positive test. So not very exciting yet I guess strangely my obsession with baby clothes has gone as well - almost as if I'm not allowing myself to get excited, whereas before I was just a broody woman...

Juststruggling sorry to hear about the difficulties you've experienced!

I tell people who you’d tell anyway if you did misscarry. Close family and friends.

OK, feeling a bit better now - thought I was the only one who couldn't keep quiet

I actually told close friends before my dh on both occasions as I wanted them to spot the line when I wasn’t sure! I don’t really feel to bad about it.

I told people straight away. Couldn't hold it in.

I had to tell people early on as, after a health scare which saw me have to leave work in the middle of the day and rush to hospital, people were really worried. It was nice to be able to tell them it was a baby not a disaster!

Same, we told people about our first straightaway. I'm 15 weeks and dh family don't know

OP do you mind if I ask why you were very very jealous/hysterical about your sister if you weren't trying at the time she got pregnant? I imagine that may well have coloured your family's reaction.

Here I don't mind you asking but it's a complicated story I don't want to go into. Parents were perfectly happy when I told them, it was only later they seemed a bit meh. Have since spoken to them and all is well, think it was my anxiety talking