Terrified of 12-week scan

[Autumn0909]

I’m 11+5 and just wondering if anybody is or has been in the same boat as me? DH and I were on a rollercoaster of an 18 months TTC and finally I became pregnant.
However, the scan is next week and I’m terrified of any bad news that may come our way. Every time I use the toilet and wipe I’m scared of finding blood and constantly analyse any symptoms or lack of that I have.
Please tell me I’m not the only one. Does anybody have any advice or words of wisdom?

Hi I'm only 7 weeks and I have the exact same fears! I think it's natural. I've had a horrible sensation since 5 weeks that I'm bleeding and rush to the toilet but there's nothing there. From what I've read it can take a couple of minutes to find the baby on the monitor so don't panic if the sonographer goes quiet when she starts looking. I hope everything goes ok for you! X

I’m 33+5, and I was (and still am!) exactly the same. Even though I feel them kicking away furiously, I still worry during scan week that it’s game over. My worries have changed during the pregnancy, but I still worry - my husband and I joke that this is just how it’ll be for the rest of our lives, always worried about something or other! I found that I became more relaxed around 24 weeks, and as each week goes by now I’m relaxing a little more as their odds improve. I found googling the numbers helped me, all being well st the 12 week scan my chances of miscarrying dropped to 5% (from memory!) and whilst I knew it could happen, the odds were in our favour. I also find googling week by week progress really helped too, because I’d read what they were up to this week, focus on the upcoming 6 days, and then boom! time to read the next update, really helps me to focus on the short term, and not worry as much about the larger picture and too many what ifs. I hope your scan goes well, as does your pregnancy!

I went through this too, especially as baby was IVF. I cried at every scan bar the later one just because I was convinced they would turn on the picture and something would be wrong. It wasn't and DS now 9 months. Try and not worry x

This is natural.. I used to feel sick before going for a scan as was so scared that something was going to go wrong, just remember that most of the time everything is fine and if thee is something wrong medicine is an amazing thing and if something is detected early then there may be roads to go down. This was my thinking at scans... good luck with everything sure will be great x

Totally normal.

I was shocked that the midwife just believed that I was pregnant at that first appointment. No tests, nothing, just chit chat about due dates etc.

I kept doing weekly pregnancy tests until that first scan.

Sure it'll be fine btw. It is hard but try to relax. Congrats!

It's part of being a parent. You'll worry for the rest of your life! Try to relax - stressing yourself out won't change anything and will just make you feel bad.

Thanks for all of your replies. I’m so glad to know I’m not the only one. I didn’t even think about the fact that, as a parent, I’ll be worrying for the rest of my life!

Totally normal. I've also had two kids, multiple miscarriages and bleeding - the most I bled with my DD who is now 9 and fine - so even if you do get bleeding it's not definitely a miscarriage anyway ... but yes I felt exactly the same as you through both successful pregnancies - keep calm and carry on

I'm pregnant with DC3 and just had my scan today. I was really nervous as I was each time round until I saw baby and nothing worrying was found.
As a PP said though, this is the start of a lifetimes of worry, just moving on to different things to stress about!
Good luck, hope everything goes well.

Oh yeah.. think I find a different 100 things to worry about every day an I already have children prior!! One kick, one smile, one stream of babble, one milestone hit and all that worry melts away cause you can't help but smile and enjoy xx

I’m 11+2 and I’ve got mine booked for the 2nd feb when I’ll be 13+3 so flipping ages away.Honestly I’m crapping myself but like previous comments I’m sure that once this one is out the way I’ll be worried about the next. I’ve been naughty and booked a scan for Saturday just for reassurance that baby is in fact still there as I feel way to good ( see never happy).

Yup I know the feeling.

Took us ten years to conceive our daughter and that's after being told it would never happen for us. I'm now pregnant 10+4 and on knicker watch again.

My pet hate in pregnancy is the excess lube we make.