Feeling a nuisance

[AnxietyForever]

Why do I feel a pain ringing the midwife? Anyone else feel like this? I went in for some monitoring last week for reduced movement and everything was fine and now I feel like I want to be monitored again but just don't want to be a nuisance

If you are experiencing reduced movements you must call.

I think we feel like that because the majority of the time things are thankfully ok. However, we have no way of knowing that without the proper checks which is why the advice is always to get monitored for reduced movements etc. So please don't ever feel like you're wasting their time.

I'm off work today because the midwife advised me to stay at home and monitor a small bleed that I had at 25 weeks. I'm also worried I'm overreacting but at the same time I know I need to follow medical advice. In my last pregnancy I thought I was making a fuss about a puffy face - turns out it was pre eclampsia. So if there's any worries, call.

I felt like a nuisance every single time I called in (was a lot!) Because everything was fine, until it wasn't and then everything was an emergency. Don't risk it. I realised when I went in for monitoring just how many women do. The place was packed with women being monitored and as one midwife said to Me, it's just part of their job.

I'm not a woo person at all, but I totally believe in intuition in circumstances like this. If you feel that something needs checking, please do get checked. Who cares if the midwife thinks you're overreacting? It's his/her job to reassure you and ensure the health of your baby.

I've got an appointment with her at the GP shortly. I know I was always going to phone her I just feel a pain.

Please don't feel like a pain. Like others have said, most of the time it's ok, until the time when it's not and a life is saved. That's the same for all of us who go in, so most people will, thankfully, be absolutely fine and the MWs all know this - checking for problems is their job and they are happy to do it.

I think it's just so drummed into us that we mustn't waste NHS resources that 'just checking' feels wrong. I was reassured when I went in for monitoring this weekend that the midwives really do want you to call with any concerns. As they put it, baby can't call them so they only know if help is needed if mum calls. Helped me to feel less neurotic and more as though I'm caring for baby when I call for advice. Not sure if that helps?