Petrified

[PoisonIvy123]

Hi, I never use these forums really but feel I’m in a slightly desperate situation and don’t know where to turn... today I’ve just found out I’m pregnant and I’m terrified, I have two children currently going through

Sorry pressed enter before I finished, divorce hasn’t even finalised, and I’m pregnant with another married mans baby, my family hate me and this will just be the cherry on top of the cake... feeling disastrous, I left my husband for this man and I guess I understood the consequences of doing this, I wouldn’t go back to my husband because I don’t love him. Terrified of what my family will say when I tell them. Help anyone in same situation? Xx

Wow!! That sure did escalate quickly!

Okay. Difficult situation and I'm sure you need need the lecture on 'should've used protection / been more careful etc.'

You need to speak to your boyfriend asap as it's his responsibility as much as yours. You never know, this might be the push he needs to sort his own circumstances out and commit fully to you. This could be a really good thing.

Forget about your husband. you're getting a divorce so has nothing to do with him.

Best of luck and please keep us updated

Thank you so much for replying, just having someone who has replied has made me feel abit better. I will discuss with boyfriend ASAP and decide what needs to happen, if he can’t commit then I guess ultimately that’s his problem and I will just have to think about raising baby on my own, luckily I have a good job and whilst my family have been devastated about me leaving my husband we are on slightly better terms and hopefully they have two choices to get used to the idea or disown which is nothing new that they haven’t done previously. Thank you xx

Why are your family "devastated" that you have left your husband? I assume you had reason enough, in that your marriage wasn't working although I understand they would be concerned that you were leaving your marriage for a man who is still married. Again - I assume that although he is still married he and his wife are in the divorce process as well.

However - your life, your choices and I hope they manage to find a way to support you and your children despite their obvious negative feelings about the situation.

At least you seem to be in a position to raise the child on your own should your new partner decide it's too much too soon.

Shit happens. You can't un-do any of it and I hope your family decide to start supporting you a bit more.

No worries. Just remember that you haven't done anything wrong.

You finished your relationship with your husband. It was done. You're aloud and perfectly entitled to start a new relationship. So well done you for moving in with your life.

You're a good person and you can totally get through these next few months to a year. Soon, you'll wonder why you were even worried about it.

Best of luck x

My family were devastated because they loved my husband, but I did not love him and hadn’t done for a while, we had been married 8 years. I guess you can’t help who you fall in love with and I need to be positive more than ever now. I have met my boyfriends family but was introduced as a friend so it will be a shock I’m sure when they find out! X