How many people are allowed in the delivery room UK?

[Miajesse97]

hey ladies I was just curious to know how many birthing partners your allowed? As my partner and mum and I'm there without a doubt but my older sister is desperate to be in the room ? Is 3 allowed? I understand with c section only 1 but what about natural?

Most women chose their husband and mum.

I don't know a single person who had their mum as a birthing partner.

My Mother and I are most definitely not best friends. I didn’t even want her in the same county when I gave birth.

Good luck OP.

My mum was my birthing partner because I had split from DD's father before she was born.

Why is your sister desperate to be there? That sounds a little odd.

In my area you're allowed two birthing partners, but only the 'primary' birthing partner can be with you throughout the whole labour. The second birthing partner is allowed in when you're close to the pushing and delivery stage. The primary partner is then allowed to stay and others are only allowed at visiting times. It does vary by area and hospital/MLU so id double check

okay thankyou all for your comments probably will just be my mum and partner

It depends on the hospital as well as whether you're consultant or midwife led. Call your unit and ask.

If my Mum was still around, I would have loved her to be around during birth.
The idea of a partner actually made me a bit uncomfortable at first, as where I come from, men don't tend to participate in births and there is a bit of a frowning when it comes to that, I recently read two unrelated articles where men complained how it ruined it relationships and how women should not expect men to be around at such times, so I was worried about my partner to be present.

Two in most places I think unless you're on one born every minute :)

I had my Mum and my husband there, they ended up being good company for each other chatting in the background whilst I was happy to be left to it. They were also read in the pushing stage for different reasons. It should always be your choice though, I myself was really happy to have both there.

*really good in the pushing stage

I had my mum and DH, and I was 32. My sister had mum and her partner. Not that unusual.

miajesse I was 20 when I had my first and my Mum was the past person I'd want there. Bad enough she kept calling the ward - she's rather anxious.
TBH I was so busy with what I was doing I ignored DH and barely remember him being there.

Only one allowed I think where I am. No way would I have wanted my mum there (and she was an amazing lady!).

I'm glad I'm not the only one then and my mum is my rock I have an ongoing anxiety disorder that somehow only my mum knows how to handle me when times get tough so I feel having her there would be ideal to keep me calm as she's had 6 herself and knows exactly what to do bless her and my partner Is more than happy with this

You might have to pick between your mum and partner. Ask your midwife what the policy is at your next appointment.

At the hospital I'm going to have the baby my sister had hers within the past year and she had my mum and her partner so I know it's two allowed for sure

Enjoy your birth and only invite your sister if you want her there (and if there's space for her).

I had my Mum there and my DP at the time. That was a long time ago but I'm pregnant again now and considering whether I'd like my Mum there again.

I don't think it's unusual to have your Mum there. Especially if you're young.

Dh’s ex had him and her mum.

Even though he really really didn’t want his mil there. He didn’t say anything because it’s what his ex wanted.

In hindsight he wishes he had said something because he felt really pushed out of the whole process- the whole you’re a man you can’t possibly understand or be any help.

If you want more than one birthing patner just have a think through of the dynamics.

My mum and sister keep hinting that they'll be at the birth and at some point I need to break it to them that this won't be happening...

I was 31 when I had DS and I had my Mum and DH. Ended up with an EMCS but at the MLU I had both.

I'd rather have my Mum that my DH. When stuff started going awry he was neither use nor ornament, my Mum knew my preferences and advocated for me accordingly.