Opinions Needed!!!

[Funkyemzie]

Ok so last year we decided to start ttc. I have been plotting my temps, opk's and everything was going swimmingly (in all uses of the word). But my ovulation dates change alot as i never get positive opk's. Last month my other half had issues at work and decided to go for another role which he got...brilliant! Between Christmas and New year we also decided to move house which we can't do until he has 3 months pay slips in his new role so we decided to stop ttc just for a couple of months as wouldn't look great on a mortgage for affordability although we have savings.

I thought things were fine until fertility friend changed my ovulation time, which at that point (Christmas day) we were still trying. I am 2 days late and got a BFP this morning at 16dpo.

Do I tell him tonight and add a huge amount of stress for him or do i keep it to myself for another couple of weeks and let him settle onto his new job? I'm only 4+5 and so not too concerned about contacting midwife at the moment as i read they won't see you before 8 weeks anyway...please help!!!

Any male opinions on this aswell would be helpful! Xxx

I don't think you have to report pregnancy when applying for a mortgage.

I'd tell him. Early pregnancy can have lots of difficulties, so i wouldn't leave it any longer.

Just to add, I've not told anyone so on my own with this. Xxx

They ask if you know of any reason for your financial situation to change in the next 12 months.

And how will you explain to him that you’ve been lying to him for weeks?

He’s not going to thank you for it. He’ll be hurt.

You're having a baby. You both need to be adults about this and take responsibility together.

There's no reason your financial situation would definitely be changing much in the next 12 months - I don't know your circumstances, but if you work you may very well be on full pay for the first 3 months of mat leave and you're going to be pregnant for nine months more just now which doesn't cost a lot.

Congratulations!

I wouldn't be saying anything about the pregnancy when getting the mortgage.

Very true, on all points!! Ok, I'll tell him tonight, I think also complete excitement and sheer panic is still in my head, it doesn't feel real to me yet! Xxx

I may have failed to mention a pregnancy to my mortgage provider. Twice.

Panic is normal! You’ll settle down in a few days.

Honestly, thank you!!!😘 I brought him a daddy to be book a couple of months ago so I might wrap that up now with the test and a strong vodka...for him not me! 😂 I thought everything had to be declared but that's fine...i have read the maternity policy at work and it's pretty standard albeit a bit shit but better than nothing.

I agree with what's been said - tell him, you should be on this journey together throughout :) good luck with it all! xx