Worried about telling anyone.....

[Gemmafionadeeble]

So this is tad long winded.....grab a cuppa ladies!

So I separated from my husband in January 2017 (of 15 years) and left with 2 kids, 11 and 6. When I was least expecting it, met the man of my dreams and we moved very quickly.....anyone else of my friends I would say too quickly but when you know you know and by June I had moved house and we moved in together. He has DD of 5. We spend our weekends one with kids and one without which is perfect, he is totally love of my life and we have an amazing relationship. It's almost perfect dare I say it!

Anyway, we started trying for a baby and I'm about 6 weeks right now. My worry comes from what other people are going to say! Yes I know it's all very fast, but I'm happy. Happier than I have been for years and we wanted a baby together, we are both wrong side of 35 and so couldn't mess around waiting for too long. Yes ideally, would have waited few years to get married and then try for a baby but we don't have time on our side.....I'm happy and so is he, and our immediate family are for us.

My worry comes that I've just got a major promotion at work......and my boss doesn't even know that I've got a boyfriend, still think I'm recovering from my divorce etc.......he's not going to be best pleased as it doesn't follow the plan of the project for me to be off for 12 months. I know we don't do these things to please others but also I am mega worried about telling other people.

Mentioned to lady in my office I was spending xmas day with my boyfriend and she was shocked I even had a boyfriend and commented on how quick it was, what she going to say when she hears I'm PG!

I know its what I want and work will sort it self out, and people will always have an opinion but it's just worrying me......going to wait until after 12 weeks scan to tell all.

Just needed to kind of vent off....thanksxx

Hey,
I don’t think it’s been that fast, I guess if you tell them you met in June they might say it’s fast, but to start saying you are with your boyfriend from xmas onwards, it would have been near enough a year which i would say is enough time. (Everyone’s opinion is different I suppose)
People can’t always wait around to find the one, when it happens it does just happen. In your case you found him sooner rather than later.
As long as you and your family are happy then there shouldn’t be a problem.

I am nearly 7 weeks and I am scared to tell my family as I’m quite young (20) and my parents will probably disapprove. I’ve been with my partner just over 2 & 1/2 years and am engaged and renting. I guess it’s just nerves, I’m even scared to see my doctor later for my booking in appointment in case of being judged.
I also have a new job but don’t start until mid Feb, same company different role so although I’m still entitled to mat leave I’m still scared of letting my new manager down.
I hope everything turns out okay and you manage those nerves, I’m sure it will all work out in the end! Xx just think about how everything will be all settled in the end when the baby comes.

Thanks @gem173......yep I just feel the same re boss. He's given me this fab opportunity of the promotion and do feel like I've let him down a bit...but life is about love and family and not work to me and having a baby with my man is more important to me.

We are all more than happy is the main thing, guess I just care a bit too much about what people think. got to try to worry less!!

Good luck to you....honestly 20 isn't too young. You sound very mature and you are in a settled relationship....sure everyone will be pleased when they know! And if they aren't.....baby is for you and partner no one else!

xx

That’s very true :)
Our baby is for us and no one else.
I honestly am scared about what other people think but I think we both need to buck up (as my oh tells me to do) and get on with it.
It’s our decision to have a baby so we should stick with it no matter what happens. As for the job, i have always known that I’d take being a mother over a successful career anyway. Some people are different but to me I wouldnt be able to envision my life being in a good paying job and waiting to have children. I’d just get more broody! I feel fine in my current job and my new job is slightly better with opportunity to progress so it’s not like I’m giving up this side of my life.

In the meantime let’s try not to worry !

Yes ok it’s a bit quick but who cares what anyone thinks, your an adult and as long as your are happy and Baby is wanted and loved that is all that matters.

Congratulations to you 🍼🍼🍼