Husband really annoying me!

[GeorginaFall]

I realise that this probably sounds unreasonable BUT my husband has a couple of very bad habits that, now I'm pregnant, are making me want to throw things at him! Mostly because they are thinking that will be very unhelpful when we have a young child to discipline, e.g

picking his nose
picking his ears (and eating it!!)
eating with his mouth open, VERY LOUDLY
emptying his nose into the sink, and other places.

I have asked him repeatedly to stop all of the above. He has been to a specialist about his nose and has a special nose spray - it's like he doesn't care! I am also getting very annoying by his "wussy" behaviour - if we have a tickle fight in bed and I pinch him gently he squeals and behaves like a little girl (worse, actually, I was very resilient as a little girl!). We are having a boy, and I don't want to end up a sheltered little townmouse like my husband in this way. He was VERY spoilt, and hadn't ever changed a lightbulb until last week. All of this I knew before, and I love him anyway obviously, but it's just REALLY getting to me right now. I was raised with older brothers and we have always been very rough and tumble.

Also, perhaps unsurprisingly, he told me yesterday I am being mean all the time. I am really trying to balance out the nagging re above with loving messages and gestures, but now I am very angry at him for being so judgemental when I am a bag of hormones and exhausted all of the time.

Oh my God, his habits sound vile, made my stomach lurch and I'm not even pregnant.

You don't love him, you love the idea of him and what he should be.

he sounds like a child.

What a ridiculous comment! We have been together for over ten years and I love him very much - I am simply very irritated by these habits as at this point I am 1) very hormonal and 2) concerned about how our son might mimic them. It's perfectly normal to be irritated by a spouse - I've been on several posts where pregnant women have thrown rings into the garden, and want to murder their husband during pregnancy. If you're going to be rude or negative or troll people, please don't do it on my post. Looking for actual advice.

Is there stuff that you do that annoys him. If so, do more of it, a lot more. The bodily function habits, he could for sure tone them down or at least go into another room.

Unfortunately his vile disgusting behaviour should have been a ltb offence before you conceived.
Now you have to face the fact you will have a newborn and a teenager to parent.

Ugghh he sounds gross. The weird thing is, my OH is pretty “manly” (at lack of a better word for this conversation) and since I got pregnant I’ve also had issue with his weakness. I’m a pretty physically strong person when I’m not pregnant and I used to lift sofas up and down stairs on my own and things... so now I’m pregnant it annoys me to death when OH moans about it! Anything I see as “weak” bothers me about him, when before I got pregnant it honestly didn’t really bother me as he certainly pulls his weight (more than me in certain things). He’s been off for two week for Christmas and he’s done a lot of DIY and things around the house but when he isn’t doing something I think I’m being quite hard on him (passively aggressively usually but sometimes just outright “shouldn’t you be doing XYZ?”) . His eating and bodily sounds annoy me to death, I have misophonia though and it’s made worse in pregnancy x900000000 it feels like. I’ve now got him to sleep elsewhere so I can sleep better - one night in and it was the best nights sleep I’ve had for years!

In short, I think we are overly harsh when we’re pregnant. I know that if I felt the way I do about him now I certainly would never have settled down and planned a life with this person - I’d have ran a mile. So surely things haven’t changed, it’s just temporary. Chances are those things didn’t bother you before (even though they’re really ugh)

I'm confused as to how you could possibly have become pregnant by a man who is eating the contents of his own ears...