Scan tomorrow

[Jen41]

I think I’m about 9 weeks now. It’s plagued my mind so much thinking I could have miscarried and not know about it (although I still feel pregnant), so I’ve booked a viability scan tomorrow.

Because my mum knows she’s starting to really get excited now. I’m 42 and single, she’s got no grandkids. I can’t bear the thought of her heart breaking now if anything goes wrong.

Wish me luck :-)

Ps. Having had almost no advice or support from GP and no midwife appt until 12 weeks I cannot tell you how useful I’ve found this site and all the chat threads. You are all a mine of useful information thank you x

Good luck, I'm sure everything will be fine

Good luck it is more likely to be ok than not although I know it is scary. Be prepared it might be an internal scan which can be a little bit uncomfortable. This stage before you are in the system can feel a little bit lonely but you will be in the swing of things soon.

Thanks lovelies

Good luck xxx

Good luck, Jen, hope it’s a great scan.

Good Luck for tomorrow

Best of luck

Good luck!

Good luck! Xx

Sadly it looks like I’ve miscarried early but my body hasn’t recognised it. It’s mean isn’t it how your body can be tricked like that.

Probably a few weeks of hassle now as I now have to wait a week for a doctors appt then she’ll have to refer me to hospital, they’ll want to do another scan, then whatever solution they recommend.

Anyway, back to crying on the sofa.

Oh Jen sorry it was bad news. I hope you have someone to talk to in real life and take care of yourself

Oh I'm so sorry to hear that hand hold x

Oh god Jen, how very sad I'm so, so sorry

So very sorry to hear this, Jen. I’ve been where you are a couple of times, and it’s very cruel. I hope the hospital are good and you get to have whatever management suits you. There’s lots of good advice on the miscarriage section. Take good care

If it’s possible to self refer to your local EPAU then I would do that to speed things up Xx

So sorry for your loss op
Hope you recover soon x
Just out of interest you said it’s plagued your mind that you could have miscarried, was there any symptoms that could have led to you thinking this or just reading about it made you worry?

I’m on the latter, I keep worrying after reading a lot into it. Really hope you get the right treatment, best of luck for your next pregnancy xx

I'm so sorry to hear this. You definitely shouldn't have to wait for your GP, try to find your local early pregnancy unit (call the obstetric unit at your nearest big hospital and they'll direct you) and explain what's happened. They should see you within a few days max. I've been in your position and it'll help you to grieve and start to move on once you've been through the process.

I'm so sorry you have to go through this

Thanks everyone. I thought about whether I could contact the hospital myself, I did challenge the GP receptionist as to what the point was and that it would mean me continuing with pregnancy symptoms for potentially a few weeks. But she was adamant that was the process because of the fact I’d had a private scan.

Gem173, no I’d not had any bad cramps or bleeds, my body has been acting very pregnant. I’m 42 though, so I knew I had a high risk of miscarriage. Honestly was still a bit surprised though, I’d got my hopes up. Sadly it’s not the first time, I went through this as a traumatised 21 year old as well. So I’m not looking forward to what comes next.

The hardest thing is facing that I’m just not destined to be a mum. Packing away all the plans and thoughts I’ve been having for the past few weeks.

I guess I’ll just have to be a spectacular spinster instead!

Best wishes to you all and thanks for your messages x

Oh I’m so sorry @Jen41 i hope everything goes well for you. I’ve not had a miscarriage myself, (touchwood) but I’ve heard from lots of people that after your first, many miscarriages after don’t compare to the first (with the pain etc) xx best of luck, don’t give up hope yet xx

I’m so sorry for your loss! sending you lots of hugs xx

Very sorry hear this. Have been where you are. You have my sympathy