I want to know the sex of LO but DH doesn't ???

[BabyMadwithBump]

These are the reason I NEED to know the sex!

• Our 2 DS's 5yrs and 7yrs ONLY want a sister and I don't know how disappointed they are going to be, or even weather they will be if LO truns out to be a boy.
• DH is very convinced LO is a girl too, and again I really don't want to be dealing with disappointments when I've just had a baby, when I can prepare people now!
• I really want to know the sex so I can have either a really boyish nursery or a girly one!
• We have so much neutral things that I would love to start buying girl or boys things, instead of waiting till baby is born (July/Aug) when all the summer stuff will be gone and winter stuff coming into the shops!
• I had PND with DS#2 and I think that knowing the sex will help as you get to know the personality more! (I think)
• And DH and I agreed to find out the sex from the very beginning (when TTC, which tuck 18 months) but a week before going for a 4D scan, DH backs off from finding out!

Am I being unreasonable?

You will find out the sex. When the baby's born

you dont NEED to know

none of your reasons are particularly valid (apart from dh agreeing at the beginning)

Why did your dh change his mind?

You will all fall in love with the baby when he/she arrives regardless of the sex.

Knowing the sex is no way on a prr with knowing the personality...that just happens as you meet your gorgeous baby and welcome them into your family.

I dooooo NEED to know

your sons probably WILL be disappointed if you find out at the scan the baby is a boy

but they wont be if they see the baby first

you don't and if you find out you will wish you hadn't!!

coppertop A work mate has convinced him to wait!

I think you'll see anyway with a 4D scan wont you ?

[wonders why on earth people bother with those expensive scans]

Enid the reason why we were going for a 4D scan was to find out the sex of our baby but now he doesn't want to know he said whats the point in having one now!

Are there really people who are disappointed with their baby when they are holding it in their arms for the first time because it's the 'wrong' sex?

Linking PND to not knowing the sex seems a bit strange to me. Surely PND is much more complex and random. Knowing the sex of your baby in advance tells you nothing about their personality.

I agree with your dh

spend the money on a lovely meal out together instead and plan how you are going to do the nursery

(dont make the mistake of thinking all girls like pink, dd1 would have made us repaint it if it had been )

ekra My mother, 5 times in a row, very upset she was, she wnated a girl!

Me I'm not bothered, but I just have lots of people around me saying girl girl girl all the time and it really gets to me!

Enid My DS#2 love's pink! so I know that one LOL!

Don't do it. My best friend's dd is a real tomboy. All her friends are boys, had almost no girls at her 6th birthday party and said she only wanted a brother. She had a name for hime and everything. In short, she was totally adamant from start to finish that she would definitely not never be interested in having a baby sister. My friend didn't find out the sex and a month ago she gave birth to a baby daughter. Her DD1 was thrilled, chose the name and now you can't stop her from holding/cuddling her. Proud to bits with her new baby sister.

How will you feel if you have the scan and it's a boy and people are still going on about what a shame it's not a girl?

Because they will, you know.

Babymad - aww, that's not nice for everyone around you to be pressuring you to have a daughter. If you have another boy, don't forget to remind everyone it is DHs sperm which determines the sex of the baby

Just think how much more exciting it will be if you do have a girl and everyone has to wait until the delivery day to know that. If it does turn out to be a boy, everyone will be so thrilled that a healthy boy has been born, they really won't care.

yes agree with hunker

they will

but they wont so much if you have the baby first

hunkermunker I would rather deal with poeples disapointment now, reather than when I've just had My baby and more emotional!

you dont have to deal with their disappointment at all!

I think any dissapointment is far less likely to happen if baby is in your arms.

I was in the same situation, it's my 3rd and I have a ds and a dd so decided that as it didn't matter at all it would be quite nice to know in advance this time. dh on the otherhand was dead against it. I respected his decision after a few heated discussions about it. Only about 3 weeks now until we'll know and it doesn't matter, it is adding more excitement about the birth. I love all the guessing games with friends and family.