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Getting married at 7+ months pregnant

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MilfordFound · 29/12/2017 11:09

Anyone got married while pregnant? Me and my partner are hoping to get married when I'm 34 wks pregnant. Small wedding, meal out with family, then probably going home to chill out. Our toddler will be with us and she won't manage much more than that without a rampage.

I vaguely remember being 7 months pregnant last time. I was uncomfortable, emotional, grumpy, swigging gaviscon every half an hour. I'm already a bit like that now at almost 5 months pg.

I'm not going to regret booking the wedding am I? Anyone out there who's 7 months tell me how fantastic you feel and how a wedding would be no big deal!

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Girlwiththearabstrap · 29/12/2017 11:39

You'll be too busy having fun to feel rubbish! And you'll have a lovely time. Honestly not every late pregnancy has to mean waddling about feeling terrible. I didn't get married but at 34 weeks I was still at work, going to the gym, going out (including to someone else's wedding with a ceilidh) etc and didn't feel I had to really curtail anything. You might be tired but as you said it'll be a daytime thing anyway so you can still have an early night. Congratulations!!

Bez9087 · 29/12/2017 11:42

I got married at 29 weeks with my son and we had a three year old at the time. We had the whole shebang of the ceremony, sit down meal etc. I enjoyed it still but found by just after midnight I wanted my bed 😂 I did in the end go and get changed into my pjs and come back and join everyone who was still up drinking but by 1:30am I said enough was enough and called it a night and left them too it. I agree with pp you get that caught up in the day etc and having so much fun you don’t get chance to feel tired and heavily pregnant. I know I was a few weeks less than what you will be but found it enjoyable. Good luck

ClareB83 · 29/12/2017 12:38

I'm getting married at 22 weeks with twins so expecting to be bigger than I originally imagined. I think it'll be OK - registry office, buffet reception and dancing. I can sit down whenever I like and OH already has given me an out for going a bit before the end if I get too tired!

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MilfordFound · 29/12/2017 15:42

Thanks for the reassurance! You're all right, it'll be fine. Even if I'm uncomfortable I probably won't be grumpy at the wedding!
We're only going to have 8 guests, all family plus his best man, and no 'do' afterwards just a nice meal at a posh restaurant.
Considered just eloping and then taking our daughter out to the zoo for the day, which we'd all love. But my mum would be gutted, so can't do that.
Pretty sure I backed out of work xmas party at 7 months pg last time.... I'm sure this won't be the same!

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DrDiva · 29/12/2017 17:53

I was only 9 weeks. The only thing that still devastates me is that we had really nice champagne, and I’d decided to have one small glass - but I couldn’t face it!!
I still yearn for that missed glass...

ALunerExplorer · 29/12/2017 18:27

No, but my youngest was a 2 week old page boy. (Really should have done it whilst still pregnant though. I had been up on night feeds ALL NIGHT before the wedding, and I swear you can still see the dark circles under my eyes in the wedding photo's).

Spangles1963 · 29/12/2017 19:26

I got married when I was16 weeks pregnant,back in 1983. I didn't really begin to look noticeably pregnant until I was 5 months gone. Back then,there weren't all the dire warnings about drinking alcohol while pregnant,so I did indulge in a couple of glasses of wine,probably the only time I did whilst I was pregnant. When I hear all the advice these days about not drinking whilst pregnant,I feel bad about it,but thankfully my DD was fine.

ProseccoPoppy · 29/12/2017 19:27

It’s a lovely small do with people who love you so it will be fine. I went to a big party at that stage last time with no issue - had a lie in the morning after but no big deal. Hope you have loads of fun!

Sidsreadingdiary · 29/12/2017 20:49

I got married after our son was born. I wish we had done it when I was still pregnant. I could not hold him properly because my dress was really slippy and feeding him was very difficult. He cried all day. I felt sick during the ceremony because I could hear my baby crying but could not go to him.

I am glad that I am married to my DH but I have no happy memories of my wedding day because it was horrible. Your plan to get married at 34 weeks is a great one.

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MilfordFound · 29/12/2017 21:16

@ALunerExplorer 2 weeks after giving birth?! Wow that is impressive! Lovely that he got to be there with you and be part of it.

@sidsreadingdiary That sounds upsetting Part of the reason I want to do it before baby arrives is for similar reasons. I know once I've given birth I'll be too wrapped up in the new baby to want to focus on anything else. We are trying to plan the day around what will be easiest for our toddler, having a young baby to consider too would be hard.

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Todayissunny · 29/12/2017 21:23

I got married around 34 weeks. Just a small group (us and parents). We did something a little bit different and special after the ceremony which suited both me and elderly pils. And a lovely meal in the evening. I was fine. So happy that I didn't notice being uncomfortable.

RideOn · 29/12/2017 21:32

I know it’s not the same for all but my bump dropped in first pregnancy weeks before baby born, whereas it didn’t until labour started in my next 3 pregnancies. Apparently this isn’t unusual and I felt quite mobile even past my due date in all but my 1st pregnancy.
I think it will be fine.

SheSparkles · 30/12/2017 09:39

I got married at 11 weeks so that wasn’t an issue. I think I was just starting to get a bit uncomfortable at 34 weeks, but not majorly-have a fab day!

Mummaofboys · 30/12/2017 13:33

I had a big wedding planned, two years in the making and Planning. I ended up being 12 weeks pregnant, morning sickness and all I still really enjoyed my day we announced our pregnancy during the speeches it was lovely. I think you will be fine and still have a lovely day. 7months seems a good time, the most important factor is you your husband to be and little girl get to be a ‘proper’ family and all enjoy the same last name. X

Smellyjo · 01/01/2018 09:51

I got married at 32 weeks just over two years ago. It was meant to be small but you know how it can be, we ended up with lots of people but it was pretty simple. I was never a person that expected a wedding day to be the happiest day of my life, I was so looking forward to being married but I felt the day was mostly to make other people happy. Like you I felt we'd never do it if we didn't do it then. And I loved that I didn't feel the need to diet for the day!! I had a dress that I loved from

Smellyjo · 01/01/2018 09:55

Oops I was about to look up where and posted by accident - Tiffany rose is it? I did find the run up quite stressful as I'm not the most organised person so there were loads of details to organise in the last weeks (we were only planning it for 3 months). So my advice would be to get as much help as you can organising and don't leave things to last minute like me! But with a small thing I'm sure you will manage. It was lovely knowing our little one was there, and bumps make everyone happy. Have a lovely time xx

Sleepymcsleepyson · 01/01/2018 10:45

I was almost 36 weeks pregnant. It was perfect and wouldn't change a thing! I got a maternity wedding dress and I loved it. It had lace cap sleeves and went into a v neck then flared out over my bump. At the back it was lace up my back with buttons up to my neck and a train. I felt great. There was 12 of us in a hotel by the water and we had a meal there afterwards. I remember my husband saying around 7/8pm, if we had a big wedding this would be the night do starting. I couldn't have coped with that pregnant or not. Each to their own but a small intimate wedding was perfect for us. Go for it!

dinosaurkisses · 01/01/2018 17:46

I was a bridesmaid for my sister at 37 weeks- not the same as being the bride obviously but I was still on the go all day with the rest of the wedding party.

It was fine- I was wrecked with tiredness from about 24 weeks but honestly you’re so busy being on the go all day you won’t notice!

It was actually a really nice way to break up the slog of late pregnancy as I had something other than my due date to look forward to.

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MilfordFound · 01/01/2018 19:42

Thanks for the replies! It's good to hear other's experiences.

@smellyjo I feel the same, for me the marriage is the important bit not the wedding. I've been looking at Tiffany Rose dresses, they're lovely! I think I'll end up with a bridesmaid dress rather than a wedding dress, I like a bit of colour.

We're going to aim for mid march, mid week wedding. At the town hall, then out for lunch. No evening do, no stress, very little organising. Hopefully back home and in my pajamas by dinner time

@dinosaurkisses oh yes, something to break up the last trimester, good point. It'll be a lovely day with family, and then only a couple more weeks of work before mat leave. It will make those last endless few weeks go a bit quicker hopefully.

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MilfordFound · 20/03/2018 07:13

Got married last week, it was a lovely day and we thoroughly enjoyed it start to finish. Very little planning needed, no fuss, no stress, just perfect. My daughter did really well and kept us entertained. We went to the zoo the day after

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bella2bella · 20/03/2018 07:41

Congratulations! Glad you had a lovely day!

SPT11 · 11/07/2018 18:26

Hello,

Can anyone give me any advice about getting married whilst 7 months pregnant? Our wedding has been planned and booked for about 18 months now and I have recently discovered im pregnant. I love my partner and our baby so much but I am so upset that the wedding cant now be what we had planned. Ive had my dream dress for over a year and it cannot be altered to accomodate a bump.

In my head I know its just a dress and I have tried on others but just dont feel glamerous in them at all.

The pregnancy was a shock and I cant stop crying.

Should I cancel the wedding that is less than 4 months away?

Glittertrauma · 11/07/2018 18:40

@DrDiva same thing happened to me, only I wasn't even pregnant! Just felt sick with adrenaline and the overwhelming nature of the day - didn't eat any of the nice, carefully planned meal or drink any of the beautiful vintage champagne my dad supplied! Didn't even want to cut the cake! My SIL spent half the night trying to persuade me to t a glass of flat Coke- I kept saying no and then as soon as I did I felt so much better!!

Thegirlhasnoname · 11/07/2018 18:47

I got married last week at 23+4. It was very tiring (and the heat didn’t help) but it was so very worth it

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