Handhold please...paranoia

[Beingabitsillyagain]

I know that I'm being silly but just want to "talk" about it

Had an unusual finding on an ultrasound earlier in pregnancy which resolved so consultant has said all looks fine and to try not to worry, but ever since being told the news in the "bad news room" I've been going out of my mind with worry and looking into all the possible causes and linked disorders. I think it's made me extra paranoid as before that I was quite relaxed and "common sense" about pregnancy.

Without giving outing details, I am in tears of worry tonight about catching a serious infection due to contact with now ill relatives over Christmas and hospital exposure.

I know I am being irrational, but I can't shut down the worry and sleep. I can't tell anyone as don't want to add to a serious family situation with my own silly worries and want to be supportive instead.

Does anybody have any tips for me to calm down and be more rational please?

I don't have any advice but I just want to say that I'm sorry you're feeling like this and I hope you feel better soon. xx

didn't want to read and run.
for you and please try and relax so your little bean can relax as well.

It sounds like you have had a really stressful time. I think the chances of you having picked up a significant infection are very low. Much more likely that all the stress is understandably leaving you worried. I would probably feel exactly the same. There is nothing you can do now, just try to tell yourself that it will almost certainly not have caused you any further problem and that what you need is not to think more about it or do anything but to try and rest, relax, look after yourself. You can seek medical advice from your midwife/GP to help you process things, so the decision to do that can be your 'action' on this. Without knowing the issues raised at the scan I don't want to say too much but offering a handhold! I know it is really hard.

Stop for a moment and realise what a fantastic job you're doing- you're growing your own little human in there! Enjoy it- I worried so much throughout my pregnancy and looking back I really regret it. It's such a special time and passes so quickly.

You're not being silly. You had s horrid shock and it sounds like you are now in another stressful situation.

Everything feels worse at night do hopefully it feels a little better this morning. When I get like tgis I try to focus on one nice thing to each day. As small as going for a hot choc. Or a nice bath. Going for a walk. Reading a trashy book with a choc bar. It's important to invest time in yourself.

With the worries I've had some success giving my self a 'worry window' say 11am to 11 30 and saying that outside of that time I can't stress or ruminate on something. Often that time will come and go and then you just have to wait till the next day. This works for me because it breaks the habit but understands that I can't just not worry.

Be kind to yourself

Dandy, that's a bit unfair to say to OP who's already anxious. You're implying that her not being relaxed is affecting the baby which is not the case. Baby is fine regardless of how OP is feeling.

I'm sorry. I had a similar experience in my first pregnancy and anxiety got out of hand - it fooled me into believing all sort of things.

I did find the pandas charity helpful - just being told that the stresses of experienced were not normal and it was no wonder I was on such a high 'red alert' - really helped. I did have some perinatal mh support through my mw which helped a little. Don't be afraid to ask for help