Anyone else been found out?

[Strawberrythief87]

Hey, we're just 6 weeks along so planned on telling parents but no one else till 12 weeks but Xmas day we were rumbled by my brother and sil (and mothers face that gave it away) The lack of drinking and soft cheese was a giveaway apparently. We're now travelling to see in laws for the rest of the break and thinking we should just tell all of the close family as at least then its in our control.
Anyone else been found out? What did you do?

Just tell them. We weren't found out but I've known many a friend was pregnant early because of not drinking or changed habits. If they're gonna guess anyway just tell them, they'll be thrilled.

At least it’s family who found you out. I think I was at the pub on Christmas Eve. I thought it’d be easy - I drank lime and soda instead of gin, lime and soda. Firstly, DH came back with a pint glass so I had to say I was thirsty and needed it before I started drinking.
Then I went to the bar alone and friends followed me. When I ordered, the barman practically shouted, ‘just lime and soda? Nothing else?’
He then very loudly charged me just 50p. Friends heard everything yet have been too polite (I think) to say anything. I also had to refuse many shots.
Secret pregnancy at Christmas is hard!

Lol that's me right now.

Hubby wants my parents to know first but I want to wai5 til 12 week scan to make sure all ok. Thankfully I have bad headaches due to IIH so I'm fibbing with meds lol.

Ugh, to be sober at Xmas.

I've just given in and told people when I've seen them. I had a scan at 8 weeks and all seems well. I'm a terrible liar so would rather just tell people

I told people fairly early, I was excited and couldn't wait. Must be hard though.

I’m pretty sure most of my work have guessed. My excuses for not drinking at the party were met with ‘never stopped you before’. I’m 7+1 but miscarried at 5+2 earlier this year so am really nervous about people knowing.

The best thing to do is accept drinks and then not drink them. Any excuse sounds rubbish and draws attention to it, whereas if you just take a drink and then swap glasses with your OH/pour a bit away/"lose" your glass etc no one notices, seriously.

Harriet that's exactly what I do!

Glad to know I'm not the only one. We've told the immediate family we're with now but are planning on "losing" drinks over new year!

I'm very surprised I didn't get found out in the summer as I went to lots of social events that I normally would have been drinking at but wasn't.

Wimbledon - I wasn't even 5 weeks but did a test before I went as I had suspicions and wanted to know if I could have some Pimms or not! The friend I went with noticed I wasn't drinking (we went out for a nice meal in the evening and would normally share a bottle of wine). She said after the weekend she'd noticed I wasn't drinking and had vague suspicions but didn't think any more of it. She commented that I'd had a bottle of cider but then I informed her that it was non-alcoholic (I made sure I ordered it and not her so that she wouldn't notice).

Local beer festival - an annual tradition with my brother. I was 8 weeks at the time and a group from work were also there, who we met up with. I was questioned why I was at a beer festival but not drinking and I got away with it by saying that I couldn't get home so had to drive (partly true as there are no buses back home after 6pm where I live and I live about 8 miles from the beer festival). I also said that as hubby was working early the next morning I didn't want to burden him by coming to pick me up.

Local weekend music festival - I was about 10 weeks and this was more difficult as we were camping there for four nights and camping normally involves a lot of drinking for me. I took some non-alcoholic ciders and just poured them into a glass so nobody would notice. I had a bit of a brown pants moment when somebody else went into the fridge in out camper and I thought they'd spot them, but luckily they didn't. My brother also bought a nice bottle of wine with him that he'd been given for his birthday and poured me a glass. Hubby could obviously see I felt a bit awkward about it so downed most of it and I just had a the small amount that was left. Then when we went into the arena to see some music I was just ordering Coke at the bar (you weren't allowed to take your own drinks in) and my brother kept commenting that I wasn't drinking. It was a very hot weekend and I just said I was really thirsty and wanted a soft drink.

Family wedding - I was 11 weeks and again I drove. But as the wedding was on my side of the family normally it would be me drinking and hubby driving. My brother did question both me and hubby about why I was driving and we just said that hubby doesn't like driving my car as it's too new and expensive (partly true). As my brother got more lubricated he asked hubby (without me being there) that I don't seem to be drinking much recently and hubby just said that I wanted to cut down. I did have a glass of champagne with the toast after the speeches but drank it slowly and it was after food.

We announced the pregnancy after our 12 weeks scan at a family meal and I told my brother that I was very surprised he hadn't twigged due to me not drinking at several social events over the summer. He said he thought it was odd but didn't put two and two together!

So I got away with it somehow. The most difficult episode was the camping trip as it was a four day trip. It's easy to blag as a one off, but when you're with people day in day out it gets more difficult to find excuses.

I think it’s very rude to out people in this way.

I was extremely sick when I was pregnant with my twins. Apparently all the women in my department at work had figured it out because I looked so ill/kept dashing to the loo.

Not one of them mentioned it to me or to any of the men in the team and politely waited until I announced it.

I have no idea why people are so desperate to prove that they have guessed.

I really don't know why people think it's ok to ask someone if they're pregnant! If they are far enough along and ready to tell people, they'd do so without someone asking and forcing them into a corner before they're ready!

When I was 7 weeks along I was due a scan the following day because of bleeding/cramping. I didn't tell anyone prior to this other than DH & very close friend who I'd lean on if anything happened & definitely wasn't planning on telling anyone else until 12 week scan if all continued ok. The night before the scan, I was out with friends and one asked me if I was pregnant. I laughed it off and made excuses but she repeatedly asked and insisted she knew I was. Cue awkward explanation that I might be but might not be any longer depending on scan results hence why I wasn't sharing the news.

Now I know how awkward it can be, I never ask anyone if they're pregnant. What benefit is there to knowing before someone's ready? Seems people even distant acquaintances feel entitled to know as soon as the woman herself finds out. Very recently totally pretended not to realise a close friend was pregnant so she didn't feel forced to share news if not ready. She ended up telling me the same day anyway & was very early but it's so much nicer having the choice of who to share it with rather than being forced into it.

I think people just want the glory of being the first to know, which is ridiculous. If anybody’s pregnant, they will tell when they’re ready!

Totally agree! I think it's so rude to quiz people about drinking habits or prove that you've guessed somehow. I went out with my running group for a big night out at 8 weeks and was very grateful that no-one asked why I wasn't joining in the kitty. But I remember being at a hen do when the girl next to me tried to quietly order a virgin mojito. The bride's sister heard and shouted really loudly "Virgin? Oooh definitely pregnant!". Just horrible. People will announce when they're ready.