Missing out on all the Christmas desserts?

[Needingahandhold76]

So I realise this is very much a first world problem or I am being unreasonably over cautious as this is my first pregnancy, but all the Christmas desserts this year are boozy!

Myself and DP are going to PIL for Christmas tomorrow. When we visited last week we got told all the marvellous things on the menu. MIL has went to incredible lengths with planning this Christmas meal and under usual circumstances I would be very exciting to indulge in a bit of everything.

But I am so upset, because I am 8 weeks pregnant. PIL do not yet know, DP wishes to tell them tomorrow on Christmas Day. I’m already nervous about the food, because I am feeling very nauseous and have very little appetite (except for all the sweet stuff!). The desserts all sound delicious- lemon posset (made with limoncello), trifle (with a generous glug of Sherry), homemade chocolate truffles (with lots of brandy) and baileys cheesecake. By the time they know tomorrow the desserts will have all been made so there’s no chance of asking one to be alcohol free. I’m sure the alcohol content will be so minimal that there is no risk to the baby, but my DP is a bit of a worry wart and doesn’t want to take any sort of risk- I’ve been enjoying not having to do some things he declares “risky” (hoovering, making the bed, carrying any sort of heavy item- shopping bags, laundry hamper etc).

This will be my first Christmas without any booze, I wouldn’t be totally unreasonable to stuff my face with all the lemon possets would I? Or should I just be content with nibbling a Thornton’s chocolate over my cuppa tea?

We had a viability scan last week which indicated things were going well (so far). We are not telling all 14 people, only his parents. We are doing that as we will be there early before others have arrived.

Tell whoever you like OP whenever you and your DH like.

Our personal rule was we'd only tell people who we would want to know if something went wrong. But circumstances meant this included a whole bunch of women who worked at wedding dress shops! My friend with HG had to tell everyone at work.

Do whatever works for you!

I think do what you feel comfortable with and also just listen to your body if you're nauseous. You may not want any of that, even though the alcohol is fine.

Me personally, I'm going to be enjoying a small glass of prosecco tonight while cooking and then another small one tomorrow before Christmas lunch and then plenty of Christmas pudding with brandy butter. This is my 3rd pregnancy and I've always enjoyed a small amount of alcohol on special occasions and never avoided boozy puddings. But listen to your body and if you don't feel up for it, give it a miss, but if you do, I would enjoy and not stress about it.

I think its crazy to worry about that small amount of alcohol in a dessert, more chance of being in a car crash on the way over, but if DH is really worried about it, eat the desserts that were cooked as the alcohol will have cooked off in the heat.

I’m with mindutopia on the on the glass of bubbles front. I’ve not had a drop in 6 months... I’ve earned this lol.
As others have said, a small amount won’t hurt you or your jellybean

And those aghast at op telling family.. it’s her decision. Don’t be so superstitious! We told our parents and best friends pretty early. If something went wrong I knew that they would be the people we would rely on for support.

Have whatever you want op. Enjoy the moment and have a lovely Christmas x

Thanks all, have a lovely Christmas!

Congratulations! And don't worry about the desserts - a small amount won't hurt and hopefully you won't be too sick to enjoy it.

I'd be a bit at being told what I should and shouldn't eat in pregnancy though. And as for not doing hard core activities such as shopping and housework... id go nuts at my husband being so precious!

I've got no opinion on the desserts but I find the suggestion that you must wait until the baby is viable until you announce it really annoying as if having a miscarriage or anything else is something you should just deal with without bothering anyone else. I've had multiple miscarriages and have decided I'll tell family early this time.

Hope you have a lovely day OP.