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Sex in pregnancy

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Mrstobe90 · 20/12/2017 23:19

I’m coming up to 32 weeks pregnant and since conceiving, my DH and I have barely dtd.
It wasn’t as bad in the early days but now that baby is constantly moving, it completely freaks me out!

There is literally nothing more off putting and gross than trying to get physical when I can feel the baby kicking.

Does anyone else feel like this?
Thank god my DH is patient and understanding!

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Ninjamilo · 21/12/2017 11:22

I've been like this since about 6 weeks pregnant, waaaay before I felt baby move.

I wish I felt differently but DH has been so lovely and just runs around doing everything for me! He said he's not bothered as we have plenty of time once little one is here....I do feel abnormal though lol

cherryontopp · 21/12/2017 13:41

Im 32+6 and we haven't done the deed in months. Freaks him out and my foo feels like it's being punched Hmm i miss the intimacy between us but hey ho, its one of them things.

CL1982 · 21/12/2017 14:30

Yurrrp. We do try to keep it up as we miss the day physical connection but honestly it's like a bloody obstacle course trying to get a comfy/sexy position. Just do what you want I say.

Toasttea · 21/12/2017 14:51

Me and my oh try and do it as much as possible, it's very awkward trying to get a good position but we still try. It's nice to keep that connection.

MrsAlbie · 21/12/2017 15:04

Same here. Can't find a comfy position and tbh, I haven't felt in the mood much since being pregnant. Feel bad for DH though and miss the intimacy.

wowbutter · 21/12/2017 15:09

I'm nearly 30 weeks and haven't had sex since conception I don't think.
I miss it, but have no desire to do it right now and it's medically not advised anyway.
It's really sad, and I miss the whole thing. Kissing, cuddling etc.
But I hate being touched currently, and DH just has to Lump it. I haven't actually asked how he feels about it.

Mumbofeet · 21/12/2017 19:30

And me! I have zero interest and I just think it's odd that the baby will be moving around as we do it. OH says he's scared of hurting me/doing any damage (at least that's his excuse lol) so he's being very patient. I feel like i should try and make the effort before i give birth for him as i know afterwards it will take ages to feel good again, but as my belly keeps expanding and baby keeps wriggling i just cant see it happening!

Firstchild7 · 21/12/2017 19:37

I'm the same it worries me tbh my oh says he is ok with it just one of those things will all be worth it in the end

BigBaboonBum · 21/12/2017 19:56

I can’t be bothered and have zero desire to. I don’t feel bad for OH just because he isn’t getting to put his penis inside me though, seems like a weird thing to feel bad about lol

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Mrstobe90 · 21/12/2017 21:24

I just creeps me out to be honest. The baby is too close for comfort lol can’t wait until she’s born and I’ve healed so we can get intimate again

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peachgreen · 21/12/2017 21:30

I haven't found it a problem but I think you just have to go with what you're comfortable with. I think it's important to talk about it with your partner though.

Bellamuerte · 22/12/2017 10:27

We haven't done it since we found out. In the early days I was terrified that something would go wrong! We later found out that I had a low placenta and the hospital said that sex might cause a little bit of bleeding, which freaked us out enough to cease all sexual activity. Not to mention the fact that I'm achy and huge so it would be difficult to do it anyway. We both agreed that it's temporary and we'd never forgive ourselves if our baby suffered any negative consequences from our selfish desires to have sex.

owltrousers · 22/12/2017 10:33

I have to admit it is hard to find a comfy position and it is a little off putting when baby moves but we've still been doing it almost as much as normal. I think its nice to keep that connection and close feeling.

I'm now 37 weeks and things do feel a little uncomfortable and swolen down there so I've warned DH that that might be his lot.

NC1990 · 22/12/2017 10:36

I barely had sex during my pregnancy, last time we attempted was at around 22 weeks and I cried because it hurt. That was the end of that...

Now 6 weeks postpartum and still have absolutely no desire (or time!) to DTD. Poor DH!

GottaBeStrong · 22/12/2017 23:30

We are having as much or even a bit more than before conceiving, but I am only 14+4. I went through a period around maybe 5 or 6 weeks where I lost the desire for about 10 days, partly I think because I was feeling so sick, but it then came back. I still feel turned on by my OH and to be honest, when I think about it from the being near baby perspective, does anyone remember their parents having sex while they were in the uterus? My OH was a bit worried at one point as he could feel everything had shifted (this was as my bump has started to emerge) and said it felt different, but he looked into it online and decided it wasn't unsafe to continue and sort of reassured himself. So, I think we will carry on as long as is possible and comfortable position-wise.

CL1982 · 23/12/2017 08:59

@wowbutter I don't think it's medically advised to not have sex generally :) Saying that some people are told to hold off due to cervix issues etc. Unless you're one of those it's totally ok and safe to do the horizontal fandango.

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