Anxiety

[lrb92]

Hello all,

This is my first pregnancy and I am now currently 14 weeks and 2 days. I found out really early on with a faint positive at 3 weeks because I had horrendous pains and thought the worse. They went off after a couple of weeks luckily and I paid privately for an early scan at 8 weeks and 4 days. We saw and heard the heartbeat at this point :) This reassured me but I keep thinking the worst is going to happen constantly and it's doing my head in. I had read about silent miscarriages and keep thinking something bad is going to happen in the meanwhile beyond my knowledge but my doctor said these are rare in comparison to miscarriages and the usual symptoms. I had my 12 week scan and baby was progressing at the stage it should be in fact 1 day ahead of the previous EDD and moving, heartbeat etc. But I am still paranoid and I hate it :( Is/has anyone else been like this during their pregnancy? I have a flipped uterus so baby is more towards my spine and I'm aware it might take longer for me to show and to sound silly not having a bump I just feel like you don't know what's going on. I'm not really sleeping and my heartbeat goes so fast when I'm worrying which makes me think I'm putting stress on our baby. My sickness however has got worse and I'm struck down in bed with a virus at the moment. We moved away from our home town and I guess in a sense I feel alone a lot of the time and this gives me too much time to think. I just want June to hurry up! Sorry for the essay, would really appreciate some responses. Many thanks.

Hi, so sorry u feeling like this. I am on my 5th pregnancy now (8weeks)and they have all been successful and I still worry that things are going to go wrong. Worried I'm going to die during labour/or the pregnancy is going to kill me or I'm going to lose the baby, and when I'm full term I'm worried about still born or the umbilical cord is wrapped around its neck. I suffer from anxiety anyway before I was pregnant I would randomly wake up in the night and my heart would be racing and my breathing is really heavy so I really do feel you! I get heart pulpitations too.
Morning sickness is the worst!!
It sounds like everything is going ok though!
Sorry i don't think what I've said has helped much but feel free to message whenever u like. Just know ur not being silly and ur not the only one

What do you do to try and stop these negative thinking and worries /panic attacks or do you just get on with it

I lost my first pregnancy to a missed miscarriage. It was horrendous but everything looks good for you. My baby never had a heartbeat, although I didn't know they had stopped growing until 10 weeks he/she never grew beyond 5 weeks. The highest risk for this is early on before your 12 week scan. From what I read they are usually the result of some genetic problem and just plain bad luck ☹️

My second pregnancy I worried so much but everything was fine.

You're definitely out of the most risky stage now, and the one thing someone told me which helped a lot was you're much more likely to have a successful pregnancy than a miscarriage. It kept me going when I was worrying.