Anyone else struggling with their own experiences of being parented?

[Herewegoagainagain]

Just wondering if this is a natural thing during pregnancy! Grew up with a narcissistic and emotionally abusive mother and thought I had accepted and dealt with my feelings around that.

I'm finding it very hard to see her now - probably because I can't imagine behaving towards my child the way she behaved towards us - and am keeping her at arms' length. She is responding to this as expected by trying to force contact and assert her 'authority' as she sees it.

Anyone else experiencing something similar during pregnancy?

@1stX when my children were under 7 I would say grandma is poorly in the head.... That She wasn't able to make good choices and we couldn't see her because she is poorly.... I didn't want to name call or label as such because I feel that when theyre older I can give them my side and they can decide. Now theyre a little older I've said grandma has mental health problems and finds it hard to be truthful. That we don't see her because I don't think she's well enough. I've given some of the details too but not everything. When theyre in their teens I'll share a bit more. X

That sounds reasonable

I really don’t know what to say. My dad doesn’t have any ‘diagnosed’ conditions. He just wasn’t cut out to be a parent and is generally not a likeable person. He’s not just like this with his children. By chance my DP is friends with a mutual ‘friend’ of his. When this mutual friend had a stroke my dad made jokes about it and was really insensitive. His default mode seems to be take the mickey. And it turns out that he’s not very well liked by his ‘friends’ he revels in embarrassing people and I’m not exposing my son to that.

I might just say we’re not friends because we don’t have anything in common when DS is little and asks and maybe elaborate when he’s old enough to understand that Some people are wired differently