Sex after previous prem baby

[bettydraper31]

Hi,

My DD was born at 33 weeks and now I’m 21weeks pregnant with #2. I am having regular check ups with a consultant to check the length of my cervix. My question is whether anyone with a previous prem baby had sex throughout their second or subsequent pregnancies? I’m terrified that having sex is going to cause me to go into early labour, as I know sex can set off contractions and so can orgasms.

My DH is very good and doesn’t pressure me but I have needs as well haha. I would just never forgive myself. Thanks everyone xx

If you're under investigation for a short cervix, I think sex is off the table I'm afraid. Of course sex in pregnancy is normally fine but I was under investigation for a short cervix (previous cervix surgery) and was told by the consultant obstetrician absolutely no sex. My cervix was actually fine in the end. Were they concerned that's why you had a premature labour last time?

Thanks thingy. No reason was given for her labour, so unfortunately they don’t know what to look out for this time but my consultant is very thorough and wants to monitor my cervix to check it’s not shortening as the weeks go on.

When I asked him if there was anything I could do to prevent it happening again he jokingly said “keep your legs closed” but didn’t actually state whether I should avoid it or not in any serious way.

X

I would ask your consultant. Ds was born at 35 weeks after my waters went around 34 weeks and despite a low placenta as well this time, my consultant has okayed 'gentle' sex!

Well I think even though it was said in a jokey way, the advice is to not have sex, unfortunately

My DD was early after my waters went. No one has suggested I need to abstain from sex this time and now 40 weeks.
Ask your consultant.

Thanks everyone. Xxx