Desperately broody, not the right time.

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Sorry if this is in the wrong place, wasn't sure where to put it. I'm 21 and have been in a stable relationship for the last 5 and a half years, looking for somewhere to rent with my partner and we are thinking about getting married in the next few years. I'm currently working as a HLTA in a primary special school and studying for my teaching degree, I have 2 years left. I will qualify as a teacher when I'm 25 and this is when my Mirena coil runs out. My plan is to start trying for a baby then as my studying will be finished, career will be stable and will hopefully be married with somewhere to live! I know that this is absolutely not the right time to have a baby but I'm desperately broody and do not know how to deal with it. Everywhere I look everyone is pregnant and the amount of dreams I have where I'm pregnant! I had a pregnancy scare a few months ago and I was so gutted when the test came back negative. How do I shake this feeling?

Keep busy! It's what I did. I was hopelessly broody from such a young age and like you, went through uni to study to become a teacher, qualified, rented for a couple of years and then finally after buying our first house, about 6 months in, we started trying for a baby. There were so many times through all of those years that I desperately wanted a baby, especially at times of year like Christmas but I knew it wasn't the right time. Now, I'm so glad I waited. We're expecting a baby in April and although our conception journey wasn't the smoothest, it feels worth it now. Anyway, my point is - what kept me going was immersing myself in who I was as an individual, not as someone just waiting to become to a mother. I did things I wouldn't be able to do as a mum - going out, going on holidays, weekends away with friends etc and during the week, went to gym regularly as it was what I enjoyed and it kept me focused and motivated. Just keep yourself busy, enjoy life and you'll know when the time is right

You’re doing the sensible thing in securing a good future for your future family

There must be other things you want to do before having a family, do them. Travel, go to gigs and festivals. Have fun and Enjoy the freedom x