Overdue and miserable! Anyone else?

[Obsidian]

40+5 now and thoroughly fed up. Bored, lonely, miserable, uncomfortable and feel like this baby is never going to arrive! Not getting much sympathy / empathy in real life, so wondered if anyone on here wanted to join me for a grumble?!

I think it’s the hope that’s getting to me - have had lots of signs (show, upset stomach, back ache, mild contractions / BH most evenings), but everything just peters out, and I wake up each morning STILLPREGNANT. My 5 year old DS is also finding the wait really stressful, and we both end up in tears most days. I can’t take much more of this!!

Due another sweep on Wed (after an unsuccessful one at 40 weeks). Desperate not to be induced, as hoping for a home birth, and wanting to avoid intervention after a horribly medicalised birth with DS.

Any words of wisdom / positivity out there? Or anyone in the same boat? 😭😭😭😭😭

Didnt want to read and run. Poor you! My daughter came 13 days late so I can abso-effing-lutely feel your pain. The waiting and waiting despite keeping busy, I started wondering if I would ever have a baby or would just be STILL PREGNANT forever. I had a sweep and acupuncture, but nothing worked so had an induction which was pretty heavy on the intervention stakes ending in an emergency c section so was pretty tough. I think now if I was lucky enough to conceive again I would defintely hold out as long as possible - I think I was too quick to decide to have the induction before we had reached the 42 week milestone. Who knows, she may have come naturally?

Have faith that the baby will come, you WONT be preggers forever, and while it's shitty it will definitely be worth it. And maybe don't put pressure on yourself to have the birth you want - you've successfully grown a baby for 9 months, which is such an amazing achievement and clearly have a beautiful DS who can't wait to meet his little sibling. How s/he comes into the world shouldn't define the whole thing. You'll be great, keep on with the raspberry leaf tea, curries and pineapple to keep you distracted and you'll be pushing in no time! BEST OF LUCK and keep us posted.

Thanks SydBound27

Your post made me cry (in a good way) - so nice to hear from someone who understands. Fed up of “cheer up, he’ll be here soon” type comments from well meaning friends and family. Just. Doesn’t. Help. I’m stuck in on my own, as don’t have a car during the day, and don’t fancy walking / bus-ing anywhere in the snow / ice. I know I should enjoy this quiet, calm time before the chaos, but can’t seem to concentrate on anything, and just feel useless / pathetic.

Just worried that by the time labour starts I’ll have lost any ability to be positive and have a terrible experience (like last time!). Really want things to be different this time, but losing the will.

Anyone else out there waiting too? Any tips on relaxing / staying positive? Not crying the whole time?!

We're just sending this over to the pregnancy topic at the OP's request.

IM only 38+2 and feeling fed up. My daughter was 12 days late so I can sympathise with how you feel. Hopefully not too much longer for you.

Have had 5 cups of raspberry leaf tea, while bouncing on my exercise ball and knitting a tiny hat, so feeling a bit more positive - come on baby! Also feeling awful - crampy, indigestiony, achey, irritable - which I’m hoping is a good sign. Just not painful enough to get excited about... it’s quite strange wishing I was in more pain 😂😂

@obsidian I really need a ball, do you think my 6 years old's space hopper will do 😂 with you there I feel achy, irritable and heartburn a terrible!

I'm currently 40+4 and waiting waiting.... This is my second dc, have a ds who is 3, and what with only being in nursery a few days a week he is keeping me busy and distracted. None the less im starting to get more nervous about whether this will all happen naturally this time around. I ended up 15 days overdue with an induction last time, and id rather not repeat. Also weirdly feeling the pressure of Christmas, i don't want to still be on the mat ward on Christmas day, and ideally id like to be as many days post partum as possible.... Not sure i have any other tips for distraction. Christmas wrapping anyone?

I'm 37 weeks and scared to go overdue! I have SPD in so much pain. Feel for you OP

Just out of interest ladies (sorry, first time mum here!) how long do they actually let you go over before they enduce you? I've heard it's ten days and feeling like I have an extra ten days on top of three weeks is really starting to scare me to be honest!

Hi jessybear, i think it depends on ur age. If ur under 35 they start talking induction at 12 days, but even then its dependant on the space at the mat ward. Last time induction took over 48 hrs to work, so not instant either! I'm seeing my midwife next Thursday and they may offer my first sweep then... A week overdue! Lots of ball bouncing and raspberry leaf tea til then!

Both mine were late, 2 weeks and 1 week. I am going to make them both give up their favourite toy each year over the anniversary that they were overdue..,,just so they can ubderihow long a wait it was r

Should say ‘understand’

Ha! I’m also feeling the Christmas pressure cookingachristmasturkey. Had planned to get everything bought and wrapped before D-Day, but that hasn’t happened. Tried to do some wrapping the other day, but got so uncomfortable sitting on the floor with paper, sellotape etc. that I abandoned in a huff.

My midwife said they’d recommend booking in for an induction at 2 weeks over (possibly 10 days if pessary / gel needed, rather than just manual breaking of waters), but that you can refuse - and keep waiting (think you have to be monitored every day). I would definitely consider waiting. Want to avoid syntocinon drip at all costs, as had it last time due to failure to progress, and ended up with a cascade of interventions.

Back ache has ramped up this evening, so feeling a bit more hopeful...

Good luck to the rest of you waiting

Still waiting Not impressed.

Anyone else want to wait with me?

cookingachristmasturkey - any news?? Hope things are happening for you. Any positive non-induction birth stories post-41 weeks out there? Seeing Midwife tomorrow for another sweep. Really hoping this one works!